Is it normal i want to stay in a relationship with a scoundrel?

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He talks about other women like they are amazing. If I point out a flaw about them, he defends them and calls me mean and jealous. He walks up to young girls (they could be jail bait) and tries to talk to them and get to know them. He gawks at women when we are together, and eyes them up and down like they are a Porterhouse steak.

He does whatever he wants, even when I tell him it is hurting me deeply. He says if I don't cry, then he doesn't think I care about a situation, and continues with the behavior.

But I still care for him! Help me. I want to get away, but I don't want to get away. What should I do? What is wrong with me, and how do I get out of this!!!

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  • gashlover
    9 years ago

    you need to understand the psychology of why you put up with him. it's a fact that when girls (primarily girls) are put down/insulted/mistreated by their significant other, they little by little lose their self esteem and in the process feel an unhealthy "love" towards their abuser. it's a fuct up situation. You are worth more than this! Once you realize that you are caught in this vicious cycle you should be really pissed off and hate this guy with a passion. If you have trouble with this you should find maybe a women's shelter to ask to talk to a counselor to try to sort out your feelings.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    According to Paul Simon, there are "50 ways to leave your lover". Pick one! Do not pass go and do not collect $200.00.

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    • CoraCook
      9 years ago

      I just realized I've been listening to Paul Simon since 2 hours, 47 minutes ago.

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    • CoraCook
      9 years ago

      I love that song! Haven't heard it in so long. Thanks, I'm on my way to reminisce.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      That is really not helpful. Thanks wise ass.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Just what the fuck were you looking for, a shoulder to cry on? Either you are an adult and need to act like one and decide to do something, or you are a pussy and will suffer being continually humiliated by this asshole until you actually grow up. Don't go calling me a "wise ass" honey, it was intended to be good advice.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        I think what GS is trying to tell you is to just do it...dump the guy. Emancipate yourself!

        Lord knows we can't do it for you.

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  • CoraCook
    9 years ago

    It's a horrible feeling, to want someone and not at the same time, and it's a hard decision to pick up and leave. From what you described, that's what I would do (or try to do, repeatedly, until I was finally free). You seem to know that doesn't work for you. Treat yourself the best you can, no one deserves to be disrespected in such a way. If he has no empathy for your feelings, there's no crying, pleading, begging, or talking that you can do to change him.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Leave the pig! I think you're probably codependent and afraid of being alone. I say feel the fear and do it anyway!

    The longer you stay the harder it will be to get away.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    Emotionally distance yourself from him first. Think about all his flaws, daydream about your actual ideal guy, then when you feel ready then just break it off and cut off contact with him.

    The easiest way: Tell him it's over and ignore him from now on. Well. It's easy as in it takes a shorter time, but it might be really hard since.. well, you're attached.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Although I sympathise, I kind of agree with mountain man. Too many people describing their asshole boyfriend/husband and how unhappy they are with him and asking what they should do about it. Come on, seriously? You need to leave him! You think someone like that respects you at all? Ofcourse not! He's a disrespectful pig and why you even decided to date someone so inconsiderate in the first place, I will never know. What I do know though, is that he's going to turn you into a bitter, angry, insecure woman with trust issues if you don't get out, soon. I know this exact type of guy and trust me, all they bring to your life is mysery. Get out of this relationship before it emotionally damages you.

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  • Energy
    9 years ago

    Just leave the little turd.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Another stupid post about a stupid person that wants to stay in a completely unhealthy relationship. Im getting so tired of this.

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