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There is a man living near me. He has a big beard and likes to scratch it. He also has aspergers. Is it normal I want to have sex with him?
That's good. There are so many people with Asperger's and autism that seriously need to get laid.
I'm an aspie and also post on some autism forums and while I haven't had the most successful sexual history, I have excelled for someone with my condition. Many aspie men I have talked to have absoultly no experience with women. Women aspies do not seem to have this problem, but do have a lot of trouble maintaining actual relationships.
I can give quite a bit of advice on this topic.
All aspies are different though and I can only explain for myself.
First don't expect the emotional reactions most people will give. It doesn't mean they aren't into you. We just have no idea how to communicate through emotion.
In relationships I will continue to be distant emotionally even though I can be socially outgoing (which is actually also rare for an aspie) I'm much more extroverted than most aspies I've met and I think it's because I am an entertainer and go out a lot. Being emotionally distant will not get better, even after years, so accept how it is.
Somebody without my life experience may have no social skills at all including being able to hold a conversation. It is good to as lots of questions so that they have something to respond to. I had to learn that I am supposed to respond even if I am not asked a question.
Another thing is you will probably have to be very direct, and when you think you are being direct, it's probably not direct enough. I have no idea if a girl is into me unless she tells me. I do become more interested in a girl too when she tells me and often wont even notice anyone until they approach me. I often cannot read the most simplest of body language. I don't understand how flirting works without being weird. I have no idea how relationships even work.
An easy way to describe my social interaction is that I was not born with the social instincts that most people have naturally. I had to completely learn them. Posting here and other places online has helped me signifantly. I would not have been able to express my thoughts the way I do now 10 years ago.
Also don't worry too much if you do get rejected. It is common for aspies to be asexual and not interested in people, but many are. Just remember to be very clear with everything.
Any aspie females out there??? Or is it just men? We need a show of hands, ladies!