Is it normal i want to break up with this guy? how do i?

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His anxiety and suicidal tendencies stress me out. He's gotten suicidal over things that don't even matter like: the president, me not wearing the right socks, me not letting him have my employee discount, me wanting a sex toy, me wanting to cosplay as a guy, etc. He also wants me to be things I cant be like :get cartoonishly big boobs naturally which is impossible(I wanted implants before I met him and I just want my old d cups back, not some triple K bullshit like he wants), he wants sex all the time(we had it so much that its bland and bores me now), and he gets upset if I don't wear my hair loose all the time. How do I ditch him? He's upset at me right now and I'm tired of his annoying ass.

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Based on 7 votes (5 yes)
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  • TS
    5 years ago

    Based solely on your description he's mentally ill (I mean this literally). So, while I feel bad for him, yeah, if you think you can do better then you're probably right.

    "How do I ditch him?"

    By growing up and telling him to his face that you no longer see the two of you as having a future together. It isn't generous to the other person to linger in a relationship you know isn't going to last, it's just wasting their time over a cowardly preference for conflict avoidance.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Yeah. I just need to figure out a way to break it to him without him ending his life. I really don't want to be friends with him after the breakup and I know he'll still want to be. All it's going to do is torture him since he's so clingy. He remained friends with his ex and whenever he saw her happy without him he got sad, so I want to avoid that situation entirely.

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      • TS
        5 years ago

        "I just need to figure out a way to break it to him without him ending his life."

        If you don't break up with him, *I'll* kill myself.

        NOW what're you gonna do?

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Make a plan of escape first and foremost, because he's abusive, right? He's not worth being friends with. If he threatens to kill himself call 911 and tell them he is suicidal!

    Basically, tell him that you are leaving when he threatens suicide call 911, move away while he is in the hospital, leave no forwarding address, and block him on your phone and all social media. If he starts to harass you then take out a restraining order against him.

    This is the 28 year old drug dealer who is verbally and emotionally abusive to you, right? You need to completely cut him out of your life!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I don't think he's abusive. He's just an emotional burden that I need lifted from my life. I feel annoyed at him. I feel empty and at this point being single might be a better option. He's definitely not worth being friends with though and I'm pretty sure he'd still want to remain friends. He's too clingy and needy. He remained friends with his ex and whenever he saw her happy without him he got sad. I don't need that crap. I want to completely cut him out of my life. The 911 idea sounds good.

      I'm not that girl. I'm someone who has been here for a few years. I can say with 100 percent certainly that I hate my life.

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      • paramore93
        5 years ago

        To me, it sounds like he's emotionally abusing/manipulating you.

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  • Lestat565
    5 years ago

    Women up and tell him you no longer want to be in the relationship. Tell him why. And if he uses the boo hoo I’m going to kill my self Crap tell him to get help. All that is is emotional manipulation.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Im thinking about it. Right now he's mad at me again because I wouldn't give him my employee discount number. He seems to refuse to understand that they sometimes crack down on that and I don't want to throw 12 years of employment out the window just because we've been dating for three years. He says I'm being paranoid and I know I am, but I really don't want to risk it. He thinks I don't trust him and believes he's entitled to it because he says it's a big corporation thats greedy and shit.

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      • Lestat565
        5 years ago

        He’s not entitled to anything. None of us are and he’s not taking it from the company he’s taking it from you. And you have it cause you work there which gives you the right to use it not him. Plus he doesn’t care that it could cost you your job. He only cares about himself.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          I'm not feeding into him this time. I know his feelings are irrational and he's not getting anything. He's gotten anxious and suicidal over small things so much that I just don't give a fuck when he's sad anymore. And honestly that's fucked up of me to feel and it makes me a terrible person. I don't like it at all, but that's what has happened. I think he just needs a different woman. Someone that can comfort him and give him hugs over the things he gets sad over.
          someone with the triple k cups that he wants. Someone who can squirt milk like he wants. Someone who isn't bored of sex. Someone who will always wear the socks and cosplays he wants. Someone who won't use a sex toy. I'm not what he wants. Honestly he's not what I want anymore either.

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    Ghost ghost ghost!

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  • barefoot_on_the_sand
    5 years ago

    I never doubt any suicide threat. You should try to get help for him before you break it up.

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  • CDmale4fem
    5 years ago

    The sad part here is that he continues using the "gonna kill myself" threat as a way to get attention and his qay. It very immature, childish and really fuckin ridiculous. His threats like he dies, if he's gonna do it, he's gonna doit. Nothing you can do to stop it. You may postpone but that's it. His threats are all for everyone around him so he can bask in the attention. Get your stuff together and tell him that he's an immature prick who only thinks that he is the one with wants, needs, and a life and your own choices. If he again says he will take his life, you cannot let that stop you. That's how he keeps you there and close. When you go, have a friend with you to witness, verify, or just help keep things same when you leave. And when you do go, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN.

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