Is it normal i want to be single?

I've been together with my boyfriend for about a year, it started off just meeting up, drunkenly flirting, then later deciding to fool around, and we kept doing it until we eventually fell into a relationship.

He's a bit older than me (nine years), but he's in his last year of Uni and I've finished compulsory education so it's not like the age gap was too significant.

But it's not the perfect relationship - I'm the type that is very verbally affectionate, likes to have a best friend as well as a boyfriend, whereas he's very independent and will barely talk to me online unless I start a conversation (which every other guy I dated liked to talk online often) and also, he's very non romantic (he doesn't know how to say sweet stuff) and although he can be thoughtful, he's not romantically thoughtful, but rather practically thoughtful.

In my last relationship, I was happy until I got to know new people, and found that I kind of liked other people - which led to an awful thing where I liked someone else and someone else liked me - but due to practicality we could never meet.

At the minute, I've not met very many new people, I'm doing part time work and an online course, and recently, I've got a job that is heavy customer interaction, and when I talk to customers, and sometimes it's flirty, it just makes me realise I miss it.

I'm only eighteen, I love my boyfriend, but I just feel a little restless. I've constantly tried talking to my boyfriend, saying he should initiate sex more (he doesn't say no when I initiate, but he doesn't seem to want to try new things and experiment, whereas at the very beginning we were very sexually charged) and I feel as though he's just not putting in much effort.

I feel like at my age, it's all about meeting new people, having fun, but I really do love my boyfriend, but I also think if I stay, I'd just be settling down too early.

Is it normal to have doubts, or am I just not into the relationship that much?

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  • I do too, not all people were meant to be in a relationship.

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  • harddrystickysocks

    Plus the guy is 27 and you are only 18. Even though your "relationship" is techni ally legal you are both at very different stages in life. You are only 18 and not even grown up yet. Mentally.

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    • Lariii

      I understand that, and at the beginning we both had issues, but he's been living a student life (living in a shared house with four guys and a student loan) and I've almost set myself up for a full time job - so it's not like the age gap has been too significant, the way I see it, he could almost be 21 / 22 for just finishing uni.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Amen to that!

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  • I do not know why society obsesses over relationships. There are more things better in life than needing other people to fulfill meaningless emotional needs.

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    • Lariii

      Well, relationships usually lead to marriage, and that's a massive life choice.

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      • Most relationships do not end in marriage and marriages commonly end in divorce. Personally I have no fucking idea why anyone wants to get married, but if that's what they want to do, then go for it.

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    • Bluey_neilo

      Money doesn't buy you happiness

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      • Who said anything about money?

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  • joolia03

    This.is.crazy. It's like you wrote about my life with my current bf. I'm in the same situation as I am younger than my bf and I love him blah blah but I think about how young I am and I should be doing what you mentioned: meeting new people and hving fun! Plus Im a very outgoing person so that doesn't help me choose my relationship over the single life. It's not like my relationship is super introverted, he's also outgoing but you know its the responsibilities, the drama, and the limits that come in the package of being in a relationship.

    At this moment, I'm honestly going with the flow. If he fucks up one more time meaning, he lacks effort while I put in all the effort to make it work, then I'm leaving. But while we remain stable, I'm going with the flow because it's not like Im in a rush to find someone else, it's more of having fun w friends and free without thinking of someone else's approval.

    If you really love him, I would say go with the flow and if he does something thats worth being upset about, let him know. If he fails to understand you and cooperate, then leave him. I'm 22 and feel like a baby so I can't imagine how you feel at 18. So young and so full of life ready to live it. Good luck.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Dump him and move on with your life.

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  • handsignals

    There's more than one of you?

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