Is it normal i want to be a lesbian out of fear of the alternative

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To start off, i will address the common assumptions. no I was not molested, I am 100% a virgin, yes I know my fears are irrational but i have a major fear of pregnancy, commitment, and getting raped not because of any feelings associated with it, because I would not care if a female "raped" me. No I do not hate men, not at all. But anyway I do find women sexually attractive more so than men but I have no idea if Im actually a Iesbian or just scared. Also I am almost 27 and this "fear" has persisted all my life since learning about sex. I am a loner and never had any "friends" since about 3rd grade by my own choice, but I would honestly like to do something romantically or sexually with women, no commitment / relationship though. IIN

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    5 years ago

    I thought you were American...

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      lol

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  • RosaBella612
    5 years ago

    I think you are a lesbian

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      maybe, but I don't want a relationship with a girl.

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      • RosaBella612
        5 years ago

        May I ask why you wish you were born a guy?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Idk I just think they are the best and also it would be a lot more enjoyable to have sex from a male body. it's like asking why don't you wish you were born a guy?

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          • RosaBella612
            5 years ago

            Maybe you are transgender?

            Either way I wouldn’t get caught up on labels. Just do what makes you happy and who cares what anyone thinks.

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    Ha lesbian.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    5 years ago

    I think you're bi and sexually prefer women (which I think is quite common for bi women). Also, just so I'm following, you're ok with sexual activity with women as long as there's no commitment, but you're scared to have sexual activity with a man because you see being raped by a man as much worse than being sexually abused by another woman?

    But despite this you would be ok with an asexual relationship with a man. Would you be open to a committed relationship with an asexual man?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Yes!!! very much so. Hell, I would even have sex with a man if i trusted them VERY much and they wanted it. But the problem is that most men want sex too quickly. So far I have only ever met one man in my life that I was able to feel sexually attracted to, and that took like 5 years of knowing him. But women I can feel sexually attracted just by looking at them. they are just less "consequential" in my mind.

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  • Shackleford96
    5 years ago

    Maybe you should look for a guy who is asexual.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      they exist ?!?! but in all seriousness, it's got to be super rare, and rarer still to find one who's interested in a relationship.

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      • Shackleford96
        5 years ago

        Yeah, probably. I bet you can find one though, if you are resourceful enough.

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    I think you should look into your fear of any kind of intamcy, even friendship, before you can answer the sexual questions.

    Why have you been a loner with no friends your entire life?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Cuz I don't feel any connection with people and prefer to be alone

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      • nikkiclaire
        5 years ago

        Then whether or not you are a lesbian is irrelevant.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          to what

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    You're probably a lesbian.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I know but I honestly don't want to be :/
      Also I love men, just not sexually. it makes me sad because I really wish to be with a man for life someday. I admire them & sometimes wish I was one

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Maybe you're bi or bi-curious, and just happen to have a lot of anxiety around guys.

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