Is it normal i want him to be secure with me like i am with him?

I feel secure with him but I fear him not feeling the same way about me. In fact, I feel like I'm what my ex was to me. I didn't feel secure with him. He wasn't confident with himself and I felt like he would always look to me to make plans, or whats the best thing to do in a certain situation, etc. It was annoying. With my bf now, one of the things I love about him is he is so confident and he's smart both ways; book smart AND street smart which my ex completely lacked. My bf might be stubborn but most of the time its okay cause hes usually right. I'm not like my ex though where I don't stand up to what I feel is right. My ex didn't have big enough balls to stand up, sucha turnoff. But I do stand up to my bf when I feel I'm in the right, but I still feel conflicted like regardless if I stand up or not, he doesn't trust me or feels secure enough to rely on my decision. I want him to basically rely on me sometimes not all the time like my ex. Or at least feel secure like comfortable and at home not like "great I have to make the tough choices cause she's not sure of herself."