Is it normal i turned down my crush beacause i was too nervouse

Typical we think of summoning up the courage to ask our crush out but a bunch of what if's and but's stop us. Some people don't understand that the worst she can do is say no, is much worse in high school where you have to see the same few people everyday.

For me though she just came up and asked me on a date. I was stunned, I even thought it might be a joke of some kind; I had a lot of info running through my head, a lot of emotions and feeling I can't quite place, and I went with a safe/cowardice no. It just came out. I really love this girl (Not in a creepy way, in a we've known each other for a while but I want get to know her more way).

is it normal I would turn down a girl I really liked.

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55% Normal
Based on 31 votes (17 yes)
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  • Aaaaaaand he's back

    Sometimes our actions are incongruent with our true thoughts and feelings. Sometimes rightly so, and sometimes wrongly so. Hard to know for sure

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  • Marmoset

    It's kind of normal to panic like that, but you should do yourself a favor and tell her what you just told us.

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  • 53739

    True story: on the last day of 6th grade grade, a really popular girl who sat in the front of my English class approached me and told me I was cute and asked if she could take my picture. I was so shocked that instinctively the word no came out of my mouth without even thinking about it. I mean, she was really pretty and had a lot of friends and I was the shy kid who had just moved from a different state.

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  • yourdeepestshame

    Take her on a date and fuck her.
    Don't listen to what everyone says; sex isn't that big of a deal.

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  • Steve2WantsTheManagement2Reply

    Stop fixating on it and start focusing on something important, then.

    Foolish high school children.

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  • Jebus-Kreist

    I suppose it would be, if you were a complete coward and/or masochistic and wanted yourself to suffer. Now she thinks you are uninterested, has told the people she originally told that she liked you that you aren't interested(may try to hitch her up for emotional support), and anybody who finds out and has interest in while the guy she liked didn't return her feelings now has a good chance of getting with her since you apparently won't out of needless confusion.

    You either man the hell up and go tell her how you feel, or you watch her juggle a bunch of probably bad relationships trying to find happiness elsewhere, or lose interest in you because you made quite probably the biggest slip-up of your entire teen life. It may be too late as it is if some guy catches her on the rebound and she turns down your feelings like you did hers because you are capricious and easily confused.

    People dream of having their crushes come up to them and reveal they had feelings for them. In most real world cases they are potentially confused like you, and mostly ask if it's some kind of joke or if someone put them up to it. Sometimes, like you've said yourself and they throw a random answer out there... The difference between you and other people in similar situations is that they've generally regretted their decision immediately and FIXED IT WITHIN A DAY OR TWO, IF NOT HOURS OR MINUTES AFTERWORDS.

    I've said "Yes" to someone I wasn't interested in, just because I had no real idea how to say "No" since I was interested before they changed. Then I went and said "No" properly the next day, without regret. I had a crush on her in the past and openly flirted with her and she flirted back. She went from "My Type" - A small, short-haired, small/moderate chested tomboy... and turned into to a long-haired, distastefully large breasted, and disrespect for bras utter ditz borderlining overweight... Over the course of a single year at that. It shattered my world because I really liked her and she liked me back but I myself am a "Realist" and put my world back together very quickly and moved on. She however ended up pregnant at 17(I was 19 or 20) by ironically her ex-boyfriend/my elementary school friend I'd not seen since. The irony.

    The Moral of the story is you need to fix this fast or it's only going to get harder for you as time goes on, especially if you still harbour your feelings for her in secret after she has openly showed hers for you, meanwhile she is off dating other guys and possibly losing her virginity to someone with potentially bad/unfair circumstances, say he pressured her and she finally gave in. Generally guys like to be a woman's first, because it's more meaningful emotionally.

    You need to get your act together and stop moping around on the internet after such a stupid mistake. I'd be more understanding if it was something more serious, like promising a stalker you'd go out with them to shut them up, but this is just angsty and will only make you regret this the rest of your life with how blown out-of-proportion it is.

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