Is it normal i think women are sexist for not making sexual advances?

From what I've experienced and heard from other men, women haven't and would never approach men for their number, let alone small talk. Men initiate the conversation, women have it easy by sitting back and and finding out if the next guy is interesting enough to "build a bonfire with". How exactly did society train the female mind to be like that? Just like chivalry, this should be something kept in the past. I guess women choose to further confirm their shy, innocent-natured stereotypes.

The way I see it, women are being sexist towards themselves. "It's anti-conformist of a female to express clear interest in a guy by making the first move, therefore I will not do anything. If I never see the guy again, then that's his loss." Why do women choose to put themselves down like this?; Men already deal with the social/emotional hindrances of rejection, past trauma, and the like. I understand it varies from one place to another, but this consistency (at least in the US) is intolerable.

I believe this is why a lot of women fly under the dating radar, whether they're aware of it or not. Eventually some of them wind up on here and ask "Is it normal to still be a virgin/not have gone on a date with someone at the age of 23?" Once that happens, everyone criticizes the OP by telling her she's overlooked something simple: her social environments.

In a sense, women are hurting themselves by not trying something counter-intuitive. Ya know, instead of waiting to see who will stumble upon your path why not stumble upon someone else's path?

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  • (s)aint

    I'm female and I sort of agree. It's easy to sit back and let the men queue up but it's also frustrating to -NEVER- be left alone!

    If I talk to a man and is polite he will make a sexual/romantic advance an ask for my number.
    If I reject him when he says "hello... " I'm impolite and weird.

    This said, I think that this issue is to be blamed on both men and women. Men need to take a step back and not come off as desperate and women need to be more active because if we aren't active we certainly can't complain that we never get it on with guys that would deserve us.

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    • (s)aint

      Sorry for generalising, there is of course exceptions!

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  • Shackleford96

    I think most of the people questioning their virginity on here are males. I'm just saying...

    I do see your point though, and while not all women are like that, I think it would be nice to see more women being comfortable with initiating the first advances.

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  • valisque

    I recently had this same conversation with some girls, (most of them being close friends). They all seemed appalled at the idea of even approaching a guy for a basic chat. The most common reasons were,

    - It's unladylike
    - That's the guy's job
    - What if I'm blown off?
    - Where the hell would I start?

    I got one thing out of it aside from the usual stereotype. They're scared of the rejection. To the point where some of them would make excuses why it's best not to go on the offensive.

    It's understandable though. Plenty guys share the same view. Unfortunately we don't have an option either than to just suck it up and try again till we get it right. They on the other hand have the easy way out and that's what it's about to them. Call it cowardice or playing it safe.

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    "Okay so what if you see a really cute guy you could just tell is a keeper? Would you not go hit on him?"

    "I would rather jump in gasoline and set it alight a million times than to subject myself to that kind of humiliation."

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  • Barracuda

    I thought men were by nature hunters, havent they adhered to this role for millenia as cavemen and women as "non hunters" before evolving a conscience

    theres lots of guys out there who like a challenge

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  • Nokiot9

    Yeah. I think it's annoying sometimes. That's why I love going to the gay bar lol, I get a lot of attention without having to do much. But I think it's most attractive when a woman knows what she wants and how to get it. Her taking the upper hand and being more aggressive and dominant is always sexy to me, because it's so unexpected and out of the ordinary. Plus, guys like to feel desired too. Lol I think I'd actually lose it if some girl asked to buy ME a drink or pay for MY dinner.

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  • reminiscent

    Why dont you think women experience "social/emotional hindrances of rejection, past trauma, and the like. "???

    Not all women are the same...quite a few are willing to make the first move.
    I once asked a guy out a long time ago... but haven't since then... didn't need to. I ether didnt like anyone or guys hit on me.

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  • vaginahouse

    i wish we could evolve past the need of women! that way men could just fuck each other and thats where babies would cum from. so that way men could concentrate on whats important!

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    • reminiscent

      Fun fact scientists have descovered a way to take bone marrow from one female to impregnate another ...only a female could be born this way.
      (I think they are still working on it)

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      • green_boogers

        Whoa, an all female world! Imagine that. No wars and violent crime is rare. Queen bee females boss around frustrated bitches. Sounds like a non-violent version of a woman's prison.

        This is an exciting concept.

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        • reminiscent

          Lol
          I think there would still be wars XD

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