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i'm ethiopian and i would say pretty attractive. my whole life though many white guys who are obviously attracted to me are always so wary. whats the deal?
I'm white and would love to date a girl of any ethnicity--I've just got bad luck with women in general...
Go for a well-educated guy. I know plenty of other attorneys that are white males with black females. They tend to look beyond that and look moreso at the person.
Its typical of white men to act or feel that way, because they're white and you're not. Don't get it confused immediately with an air of racism or something, but instead look at it from their perspective. Obviously, they probably think about what their family or friends would say or think (negatively or positively). Some of the men may know what their friends and family may think about dating a colored women, while others don't. Although, a person should like someone or be with someone based on how they feel about the person, not because their family may have some mixed feelings of some sort. This, I'm afraid, has many ways of interpreting and aspects to look at. A very broad topic.
Actually, while I'm up on my high horse, saying thst "it's typical of white men" is also a racist stereotype. Congratulations for managing to implicitly insult just about everyone.
I think you're just confused as to what racism in reality is, not in a literary sense my friend. Racism implies that the racist's race is superior to the others' race. You're mixing up a sense of superiority with a sense of understanding. So, if I was to say only Muslims marry inside their religion because their families don't approve of others outside the faith that now makes it implicitly prejudice and xenophobic, right? Wrong, because you don't know whether someone is really racist or prejudice (unless you can read minds); you don't seem to grasp the idea that not all people that don't want interracial or inter-religious relationships are racist/prejudice. They just probably want something familiar to them that can easily adapt and assimilate to and understand the world their way. There is no allegorical meaning trying to be implied, people today always interpret situations like this as racist, but it is not; however, I don't encourage it (as you can see from the ending of my last comment). I wish people cared more about understanding their similarities more than their differences, but that is not the way the world works currently. Conflict always comes before understanding.
That IS implicit racism, though. Not dating a black girl because of what you think others may think is just pandering to racist thought.
People should have the courage to make their own choices and challenge these kind of perceptions. Edmund Burke wrote: all that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.
So to you people have to deny their own culture, race, religion and families in order to be "open minded'' .... and it seems that you only want to apply that to white people...
racist much?
My point was that being afraid to date someone of a different race because you live in a racist environment panders to this racism. I didn't say everyone should be forced to find a partner of a different race (which obviously worries you... interesting!) and abandon their own culture, just that if they wanted to date someone of a different race and felt they couldn't, it reinforces the racism that tells them they couldn't. Racism is where someone's race becomes a defining factor. I'm arguing entirely the opposite. That people should be allowed to date whoever they want (regardless of race).
firstly, everyone has a preference, it doesnt mean theyre racist, just on the lines of physical sexual attraction, like it seems, your preference of white males.
Personally, I dont really have a racial preference, I have seen women i have considered attractive from several different races and nationalities, and have had crushes in school on white, black, and latina girls.
no homo but ethiopians are good lookin any way someone special will come buy
In people, sometimes you see someone that has features that you're not normally attracted to. Have you noticed this? It's a general use mechanism that has evolved blahblahblah. Basically, they might not be used to seeing a black girl that they're attracted to, and they keep looking to try to figure out what it is that they're attracted to, though it isn't something that you can reason out, normally. I'v done this a great number of times. Obviously you've got it going on! Or they're just racists.
yeah I was watching dating in the dark and the White guy chose the White girl even tho he liked the black girl in the dark but when he saw her in the light he didn't chose her.
Most people date within their own race and ethnicity because it's what they are used to and feel more comfortable with. There has been studies done where people are shown random opposite sex subject pictures and most times people tend to pick the ones who look most like them. It doesn't necessarily has to do with being racist.
i live in south africa famous for very recent racism, not only that, i go to a afrikaans (white language found only in south africa very similar to dutch) school. but yeah, im into women of all colour
I am white and have never dated a black girl. Not because i don't want to but because where i grew up, there was hardly any black girls around. Maybe that is another aspect to think about, maybe a certain boy has just never properly met any girls who are not 'white' and is not used to it. I know that sounds a little funny but it's possible.
Whatever anyway, now that i've grown up an moved away from home i have lots of friends, in & around work. Some being black.
I think black girls are sexy as hell =]
Screw them! If merely the color of your skin is an issue for them, you'll be facing alot more serious problems with them down the road. Run the other direction ! Ethiopians, Eritreans, Sudanese women are queens !
Maybe they feel intimated by you, or think you wouldn't date a white guy.
Hey!
I'm mixed race and I feel very similar about SOME white men... I think American culture because of slave history is still somewhat hostile to interracial couples and most people don't want to deal with the baggage (the stares, the snubs, etc...). But I look at my skin color as a blessing... If a man doesn't want to be with me b/c I'm darker than him, then that guy is not the kind of guy I would want to be with anyway. Even if I was white (and therefore dating him), I think those kinds of people would show their weakness and negativity anyway... For example, maybe after we started dating seriously, I got fat or got into an accident and was disabled or lost my home and became homeless...etc...etc... Do you think that kind of guy would stick around (even if I was white)? My bet is on no. So, forget about them! Also, there are some wonderful white guys (and guys of other skin colors) who won't care about your color and love you for you! I've dated some! So, good luck! Hope you find love...wherever he is and whatever he looks like! :)
lets face it, if you live in America like me, we live in a racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, anti-Semitic society, where racism does not only exist in the fringe of society but is deeply embedded in our very foundation. It is extremely hard to escape, but it is not impossible. I am extremely sorry that you have to deal with such issues, which no one should have to. I hope you find someone who loves you for you, the entire package, the inside and outside.