Is it normal i think my to-be sis-in-law is 10x more beautiful than me but?

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When I say that to my friends, they always say things like, "really? I honestly think she's about a 6/10 and you're a 9/10" and "How could you think that?"

I never know if they're just being nice or what. I find her absolutely stunning but people ask me why. Even my bi-sexual guy friend of 4 years tells me she's just cute and I'm beautiful. I don't know, her teeth are perfect, her eyebrows are perfect and her nose is perfect as is the way her hair falls/her hair in general. Even though she was much heavier than me and obese and I wasn't, I still thought she was prettier and now that she's lost 40 pounds, she is perfect, literally perfect. My friend says I'm hilarious because the girl has a really fat face, thick uneven eyebrows and a pudgy nose but I don't see that as negative, I can't.

She is so perfect, it's insane. I told my boyfriend's cousin how I felt about my future sis-in-law and how she's so beautiful and I'm not and she laughed. She said that she believes that my boyfriend's sis is a beautiful girl but when she first met me, she viewed me as more beautiful than her cousin and still does. She told me that I just have softer features and am more naturally pretty than his sister and that even though she loves her cousin, she thinks I'm definitely more pretty.

I don't know if this is normal.. I OBSESS over it. I just found out she's lost even more weight and I can't keep up! I'm dieting and exercising to no avail while she's not exercised in several months and just dieting and lost so much weight! She's closer to underweight than ever. I'm closer to overweight. I don't know what to do. The girl is perfect.

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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

Stop comparing yourself to her.

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

Why do you care so much about her? Your post makes absolutely no sense at all. She's already got a guy, so she's no competition to you.
You seem to be way too hung up on looks, without any regard for substance, so there's very little chance that you'll ever be regarded as a very pretty girl, anyway. It sounds like the "you're a 9/10" your friends say, is just bullshit to shut you up.
You may be the most egotistical and shallow girl whose posts I've read on IIN since "diamond girl" disappeared.

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- ilovetoiletrolls
  
  9 years ago
  
  Lol I normally like your posts but this girl isn't egotistical, she's obviously got a small ego/low self esteem.
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    9 years ago
    
    So you believe; "you're a 9/10"?
    
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    - ilovetoiletrolls
      
      9 years ago
      
      How did you get that from what I wrote? No, I don't rate people nor do I rate myself. I don't even think of myself as anything, I just am me.
      
      The OP doesn't rate herself either. Her friends were the ones who said she's a 9/10. She doesn't think she's pretty, she thinks she's ugly.
      
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      - peaceandlovebro
        
        9 years ago
        
        That's how I saw it too. She definitely has a tiny ego/self-esteem because she thinks she's unattractive and her supposedly "overly beautiful" future sister-in-law is making her feel like she "looks even worse" next to her.
        
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        ilovetoiletrolls
        
        9 years ago
        
        ^ Exactly! I think the other guy somehow took it the wrong way.
        
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      - thegypsysailor
        
        9 years ago
        
        Not you, her. I was asking if you believe all her friends consider her a 9/10? It just didn't ring true to me, in association with the rest of the post.
        
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        iEatZombies_
        
        9 years ago
        
        Yeah, I kind of get the sense she may be playing coy. I feel she may already know she's prettier and likes to pull out compliments.
        
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craze3

9 years ago

Okay you're either humble-bragging (which, dude, ain't cool) or you really want to either be this girl or bang her.
Either way, pretty much everyone has insecurities about how they look but obsessing over someone else like that isn't healthy. Just focus less on looks.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  It's just hard when we live in a superficial world where people compare everything and try to be the smartest and hottest of them all.
  
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  - green_boogers
    
    9 years ago
    
    Perhaps you could cause really bad in-law problems by letting your sister-in-law know you are "smarter" than she is.
    
    Just remember that you are the outsider. The burden of diplomacy is on to you establish good chemistry with your boyfriend's family. Be pleasant, receptive, and take an interest in everybody. You need to be their FRIEND. Ideally, someone who they will confide in in private.
    
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disthing

9 years ago

It's not normal you obsess over something so trivial. You obviously see something in her others don't. Oh well. Unless you want to bang her or are in direct competition with her, this matters not a single iota.

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Parky_Parker

9 years ago

You don't need to obsess about this. It doesn't make sense. Even if someone is "prettier" than you, would it really matter? I'm sure you have more to offer than just a pretty face and hot body. Live to make yourself a better person overall. Don't worry about your sister-in-law.

I have girlfriends that I think are "prettier" than me, but it's never bothered me. And I'm sure that I'm also more attractive than others, but again, it's not a big deal. It doesn't make me think less or more of them.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

There are always going to be people more attractive than yourself. Comparing yourself to them will just get you depressed, so don't do it.

There are people more beautiful than you, there are people you are more beautiful than. Just the way it is.

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- iEatZombies_
  
  9 years ago
  
  This is probably one of the most sensitive appearance related comments I've seen you write. Good on you, I say.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    I have my moments. :)
    
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pogosodope

9 years ago

Listen to your friends!! And dont make it a competition. It's okay to want to be a better you. But not her.

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wistfulmaiden

9 years ago

funny I find myself 10x better looking than my sister in law.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Go you, I need that confidence!
  
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  - wistfulmaiden
    
    9 years ago
    
    Im sure youre adorable. My sister in law isn't that ugly, she just doesn't take any time to do anything to look nice--doesn't do her hair, wears old wrinkled clothes doesn't exercise... wash and go type. She IS probably x10 smarter than me though! She works in a lab in microbiology.
    
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pixie_dust

9 years ago

your lack of self confidence will lower your number, big time.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Probably already has.
  
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ilovetoiletrolls

9 years ago

Sounds like a low self-worth issue to me! You shouldn't base everything on looks anyway and you probably aren't ugly so if you're not ugly, it's not like you'll stand out beside her. I think you need to relax a bit, girl!

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Tommythecat.

9 years ago

She's fat.

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- CountessDouche
  
  9 years ago
  
  You poop in a box full of sand
  
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  - Tommythecat.
    
    9 years ago
    
    Still fat.
    
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    - CountessDouche
      
      9 years ago
      
      You speak the truth.
      
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