Is it normal i think everyone thinks i'm insane

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I have this weird thing were I feel like everyone can secretly tell I'm insane and that they either just pity, placate or distance themselves from me.

I've seen psychiatrists and have never been diagnosed insane but even there I feel like they wrote down I was, and just didn't tell me.

I feel my family thinks I am crazy. Strangers I meet, clerks where I buy stuff. I feel they all know something is wrong with me and just won't tell.

I don't act weird or over the top, I am quiet but always polite so I don't think they are reacting to me. I Just think that they sense something that i dont know.

Anyone else feel like this? What the heck is this called?

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  • KiwiWisdom
    6 years ago

    Yes this is normal. It's called feeling anxious and self concious. It usually wears off slowly as you realize that most people in a day don't give you a second thought. Most people are natually distant or putting on a face, they're wrapped up in their own fears and thoughts. Your brain has this nasty little trick though where the more you feed it the idea something is wrong with you, the harder it looks for something to be wrong. Feeling people think something is wrong with you is an assumption. You can't read their minds and what they telegraph is often unrelated to the situation at hand. Recognize it for what it is and it will no longer have power over you. I have felt as you do and wasted a lot of time, tears and money at the doctor to figure it out. In the end, I literally just needed a vitamin, more water and to realize I was creating my own problem. If it's a persistent issue, seek help to figure out the root. Sometimes chemicals in your brain shift on you, that's doctor territory. Sometimes you just need one honest friend to tell you when you're trying to read minds and stopped asking questions. I don't know you, but I hope this helps.

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  • Holzman_67
    6 years ago

    im no psych but sounds like paranoia mixed with a little bit of insecurity

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Has your psychiatrist ever mentioned the word paranoid to you?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      No they haven't. I asked about it several times and they said i wasnt paranoid although they took offense when I asked to look at their notes. Btw they didn't show me their notes. None of them.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    6 years ago

    What KiwiWisdom said it spot on.
    I'd just like to add that no doctor will ever categorize you as "insane". This isn't the 18th century ^^

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Understood, I used that as a catch all term to mean diagnosed with any mental illness.

      I'm pretty sure insane was used until the 1950's, 60's and it's a better term than the watered down crap we have today.

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      • Ellenna
        6 years ago

        The term is not only vague & meaningless but pointless, which is why it's not used today.

        I recommend you check out Cognitive Behavior Therapy, which would give you tools to change your negative thinking patterns, for example, it's not logical to believe people who don't know you are thinking you're insane. CBT will teach you to replace this type of thinking with rational alternatives - give it a try & see how you go. If you can't afford or find a therapist who specialises in this, google and find books and stuff online.

        And by the way, I don't believe you're insane or anything approaching insanity, but you are trapped in negative thought patterns which you can change. Also check out books on neuroplasticity, for example The Brain That Changes Itself: it's now proved we can change how our brains function at any time in our lives.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          I've done tons of cbt. It only works for small things like catching bad habits. Not deeply disturbed thoughts like this is.

          At least for me. It helped me overcome anxiety and panic attacks. I can now control a panic attack and stop it. I highly recommend it for that.

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      • AbnormallyAwesome
        6 years ago

        Sure, I get what you mean.
        But the term "insanity" isn't a useful term at all. Just as it wouldn't do you any good to be diagnosed as "unwell" when you have a specific illnes.
        Still today it seems as if every tiny deviation from a standardised personality is called a "disorder" of some sort. That might not be very helpful either.

        You know you haven't given any reason as to why people would think you're insane. I mean other than being "quiet and polite". Surely you wouldn't think anyone else must be crazy because they're quiet and polite. When I'm being quiet and polite people just assume I'm shy. And they're right.
        I think the only problem you have is that you think too much about yourself. I did that for a long time aswell.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          I definitely over think everything for sure. The reason I think they think that is the body language. People seem to immediately distance themselves from me. I'm not trying to read people's minds but the looks I get from people make me think this.

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          • Ellenna
            6 years ago

            What is the body language which you believe causes others to distance themselves from you?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              Btw I think body language says a lot when it's displayed over and over again. Yes we can misinterpret occasionally but not time and time and time again.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              A clerks face is smiling and they are easy going to customers before but suddenly with me, expressionless and hurried.

              In a group conversation. In that situation people are in active conversation until I speak up (on topic) and they all go quiet then talk to others and ignore me.

              The way people disband when I join in, the way people look at me quizzically. I look and smell normal btw.

              Then also, apart from body language, I have no friends, no romantic interests, my family has outings and get togethers all the time but never Invite me. My parents and sibling have not texted or called me in over a decade. My folks won't allow me over if there is a chance the neighbors and company may stop by.

              I could go on forever.

              Something is clearly wrong with me. Just no-one, not even doctors will tell me what.

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          • AbnormallyAwesome
            6 years ago

            Ah yes, the body language.
            There's quite a few interesting studies and talks on how little we're really able to read people. Apparently they found that people are better at telling if someone's lying on the phone than in person. Because we try to read expressions but misinterpret them.
            You're already going around thinking people mistrust you, so of course that's how you interpret what they do.
            Imagine if you met someone who's EXACTLY like yourself: He'd see you and think: "Oh, that guy probably thinks I'm weird" and he'd look at the floor. Then you'd be like: "Oh, he looks at the floor, guess he thinks I'm weird." and take a step back. Now he's thinking "Shit, he's backing away! Do I look creepy?" And it would just go on and on.

            See, most people don't think about you - They're busy thinking about themselves.

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