Is it normal i tend not to take friendships with women seriously?

56% Normal
12 Comments

So I know this sounds pretty bad but let me explain. With women eventually they are going to get a partner and want to spend all time with them, if they meet you at all after this point it is because their partner is busy or they are having relationship trouble. There is no real value to your friendship after this point. Whereas with guys whether they are in a relationship tends to not make much of a difference.

I never really take any friendship that forms seriously with women because it is a friendship that is temporary till their next serious relationship. With a guy there is a chance you could still be close ten years from now whereas with a woman chances are pretty slim you will be close or even talking in ten years time.

Voting Results
56% Normal
Based on 61 votes (34 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 12 )
  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I somewhat get what you mean. I was friends with this girl in highschool, there was nothing more than friendship going on (I wasn't interested in her in any way other than being friends), and the second she was attracted to this guy in the same class, I was sidelined completelym happened twice with two people that I was friends with...So, I actually get where you are coming from here.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • Shrunk
    9 years ago

    Same goes the other way around, assuming you are talking about those who are fairly straight/high sex drive. For example I was friends with a guy like that and he did the same thing you describe, were good friends until he had a gf, claimed we were still friends i just never saw him again until they broke up. so maybe it's just an opposite sex thing- it's considered "weird" by most people for a woman with a bf to have male friends, and vice versa.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • dom180
    9 years ago

    You've never been friends with a woman in a relationship?

    What an astonishing coincidence.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • Unimportant
    9 years ago

    I am not a woman, but I hope you are wrong.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    maybe that has something more to do with you then them

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      It's possible but why would a change entirely on their side always be what ends a friendship?

      I mean if I was anti-social specifically towards women it would stand to reason no friendship would ever form at all. Of course I admit now it is a self fulfilling prophecy since I put no effort in to begin with but I did not always think that way.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • bleach_baby
    9 years ago

    I get where you're coming from. All my really close best friends are male and I know that when they get girlfriends, the friendships are gonna suffer, and I really worry about it. Wish I got on better with chicks, I'm so gonna end up friendless.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • RainbowFlash
    9 years ago

    Lots of assumptions there.

    Not all women are like that, I am a woman and I am not. Also, I don't think any of my female friends would be that fickle either.

    I don't think the problem is with the women in your life...

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    It depends on the person.
    Some people will get into a relationship and isolate themselves from everyone. Not everyone does this though.
    I have plenty of female friends in relationships who hang out with me regularly.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • Saycheese
      9 years ago

      I agree with this.

      It depends on the person; it's not just women.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • perfectxsilence
    9 years ago

    See, this isn't true unless you make it true. I have male friends and I'm engaged to my wonderful fiancé but I enjoy talking to them and inviting them out with other friends. I don't think I could abandon a friendship with a male friend of mine just like that unless they were seriously interested in just being my boyfriend.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    I understand what you mean, but guys do the same thing women do at times. Overall, you don't even have to take any friendships seriously.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0