Is it normal i secretly carry a torch for widowed ex sister in law?

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Have been privileged to call her my friend for over 46 years.
Even with my divorce I always had a place at her table for Passover and have been dear friends of hers and her late husband through good times and bad. Our kids and grandkids grew up together.I have always secretly carried a torch for her. I never have been good with words. I don't know if I should say anything this late in the game. We both miss her husband terribly ( he has been gone a year) I am terrified of saying anything because she isn't over him and never will be.I am pretty sure she sees me as her weird little brother not a lover. I don't want to say something foolish and lose her friendship. she is my golfing partner and person I go to social functions with.I was thinking of just anonymously giving her flowers for valentine's day but I don't want to look like a creep.

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  • chole
    9 years ago

    I think you should openly give her flowers for Valentine's day without expressing your feelings, simply to show her that she is not alone.

    Nevertheless, I am sure at this stage in life you could show how you feel simply by spending a majority of the time together, between the two of you or with the family.

    Occasionally try something new and exciting together and always have something of comfort you two can do together regularly, such as cooking and eating together or watching tv.

    Perhaps gradually you two will progress to the point it feels natural to be together; of what point she would come to accept you as her partner.

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  • uhyeah1990
    9 years ago

    you should get her chocolate or something for valentines day or see how she is feeling and see if she wants to do anything valentine's day. I might be a hard day for her. Sounds like you been through a lot together.

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  • Dazed_dreamer
    9 years ago

    Never heard of the term 'carry a torch' until now I thought it was like the actual torch.. Duh!

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