Is it normal i said "i love you" way too soon?

Basically, there's this guy that I'm talking to long distance through text. We've only been talking for about a month now, but he said that he loved me within the first week of talking.

As crazy as that sounds, it didn't feel super soon in the moment. I didn't say it back immediately and sort of just avoiding the whole "love" word itself, until he kept saying it over and over. He never asked me to say it back, but he said it repeatedly to the point where I couldn't exactly just ignore it anymore. I know I should've just said I wasn't ready to say it, but instead I said I loved him back at about 2 weeks into us talking. And I don't think I do.

I care for him, and love him as a friend, but romantic love is a whole other level that I've never wanted to rush into. And I did exactly that. I feel bad because I've said it multiple times to him (each time he says he loves me, I say it back now) because I feel like, at this point, I've already said it once so I can't exactly take it back.

I'm just wondering if I should stop saying I love him (because I don't think I do in the way that he thinks I'm saying it) or just straight up tell him that I didn't mean it. I know I shouldn't have said it in the first place, but it's done now. What should I do and is this normal (have you done this)?

Thank you.

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Based on 17 votes (7 yes)
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  • Arm0se

    Oh no... I've been on the other side of situation before. There's no way to get around this without hurting him. Maybe you could cushion the blow by letting him down easy :/

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  • hurtmeno

    It's going to hurt regardless. Just try to tell him exactly how u feel. The situation that ur in. Make him see it from your angle. Let him know that you care about his emotions which is why you n never told him otherwise. And in a way, that is love. And cap it off with "I'm just not ready" ..I hope u don't mean to hurt his feelings smh. Pretty fucked up that u said it back or let yourself be pressured into saying what u think he wants to hear.

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  • BigScaryRooster

    You're going to have to tell him the truth. It's going to hurt but it's better than lying to him.

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  • chained_rage

    Try having somebody tell you that they love you the same day you first met each other.

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  • omghahahawasbannedisback

    you sound like a whiny fucking moron

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    • charli.m

      You know that bit where you asked me if I've ever said anything not bitchy?

      Yeah. Fucking hypocrite.

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