Is it normal i remember being spanked as a child , and it still bothers me?

When he yells at you, yell back. Stand up to him.

Totally..i rember sumtyms bt I forgiv.Its wat sets u free,u no?Bt if i do gt mad i shar my feelins n relish n da fact dat dey cant try anythn on me now!

Everyone got spanked. Get over it and move on wit your life

We had a great family life--but in my day a guy might get his bare paddled into teens yrs---I did not like it but it has not bothered me at all in life---My dad and I had and still have a great and deep friendship---so getting my bare butt paddled-even as a teen- was not a big deal --I am surprised your one spanking at the age of 8 or 9 was so traumatic----but since it continues to bother you find a counsellor and explain your feelings----there may be more in your background then you recall .

Yes, it's normal, you were young, and you just didn't understand why it was happening, and you were hurt; perfectly understandable. Your father should ahve been clear and concise so that a misunderstanding didn't occur like this.

Don't listen to this bullshit that you have to forgive people that hurt you...no you don't ...what I hope you would do is process the experience in a way that first of all helps you develop those skills that prevent future abuse...and realize that you are not at fault for causing the abuse...forgive yourself....

It's normal. But, you're traumatized and it still bothers you like it was yesterday. You need to talk with your dad about this. You need to forgive him for what he did to you. It might be in the past for him, chance is he forgot about it. But you still have that inside you, you need to let it out.

Maybe there was a reason and you forgot... And somethings that we consider a very bad/good memory will likely never truly be forgotten... It is also illegal to hit children in my country...

you just dont remember what you did wrong.

Nobody spanked you. If somebody did you wouldn't be still in need for a spanking would you?also..you might wanna use some words that don't happen to be already part of my vocabulary. People are starting to get suspicious.

It's normal to still feel bad about it if it really bothered you at the time. Maybe you should ask him about it. It could have just been a misunderstanding. It's possible your father thought you had done something bad when you actually hadn't, or maybe you did and didn't realize it. Honestly it depends on what type of father he was the rest of the time. If he was a good father and this was the only bad thing then maybe it could be explained through a discussion. In that case it would be a shame to resent your father for the rest of your life.

I think minor spanking incidents would be considered normal parenting discipline, but excessive spanking would fall into the abuse category , especially if the parent enjoys it and does not clearly articulate why the child needs a spanking...you sound as if the spanking had some abusive elements to it...and you are experiencing long term effects of abuse....which is recurrent thoughts,fear, confusion, pain,etc....also screaming is form of emotional abuse...a little is normal obviously but a lot is abusive..it is hard to reason with people who are abusive as they will justify their actions or say that you made them do it..often it is how they were raised....