Is it normal i read smut and dont do anything after?

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To be clear, i am a woman and i do not masturbate or have sex. I have never, ever "finished" or touched myself for pleasure. And yet i still find myself reading smut and occasionally listening to readings of dirty stories. Fluff, of course, is mixed in. Still, i get all this filthy, intoxicating stimuli that gets me all riled up and then i do... nothing. Honestly smut kinda helps me sleep. I read a short story, laugh at some, get weirdly turned on, and then go to bed.
Is this normal??
Additionally, no, i am not just some kind of masochist or voyeurist.

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  • Meowypowers
    4 years ago

    I do the same. I like reading erotica and I wouldn't ever do stuff.

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    Erotica authors intend for it to be read one-handed, but obviously you're free to use it as a sleep-aid if you choose.

    You're also free to decide never to touch yourself and never have an orgasm, but by doing so you're refusing to explore one aspect of your existence as a woman. I find that kinda sad, but it's your body and your life.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Do you have sexual dreams?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Yes, but i end up feeling quite guilty afterwards. And, not having watched porn of my own accord, only ever having seen (male) POV hentai from a brief newgrounds phase, it's awkward, stilted, and unsatisfying. Still, the vague ideas my brain has about sex is better than my real refusal to touch myself.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        You don't need to feel guilty about your dreams.

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    This sounds like a dude typed it and is waiting for a response from a lady. I think that falls under "trolling".

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      A lot of people think I'm trolling. It's unfortunate, but I'm not. I just have a lot of issues.

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  • LloydAsher
    4 years ago

    Idk if you do or dont masturbate. Personally I just do it so I can sleep at night also if I'm free for some time and am doing nothing better.
    It's a bit weird if you are just edging yourself just to sleep if anything that would cause me to be restless.

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  • d0esnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Never cummed ever? I wonder if maybe you feel shame or guilt about pleasuring yourself? Physiologically I don't see how you are turned on like that but feel no urge to flick the bean or nuttin. Maybe try it and get back to us? God gave you a clit how use it!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      I still feel the urge to satisfy myself, i just dont. I always thought "oh well if i dont, my first time with sex will be magnificent", and at the same time i feel great levels of shame when i think about sex, read smut, or even consider masturbation.

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      • Boojum
        4 years ago

        "oh well if i dont, my first time with sex will be magnificent"

        Sorry, but that's nonsense. It's ridiculous to believe that you denying yourself sexual pleasure means that you're somehow storing up an earth-shattering orgasm that will burst free in a explosion of ecstasy once someone else touches your body.

        For many - if not most - women, being able to reach an orgasm requires quite a bit of experimentation. Most women get better at having orgasms the more experience they have of them, and the quality improves too.

        If you believe that someone else will be able to magically intuit precisely what you need and serve it all up to you on a plate without any effort on your part, you're deluding yourself. You're creating an absurdly high bar for this hypothetical future lover to get over. Not only is it very unfair to place such demands on them, it's also virtually guaranteed to result in your ending up disappointed.

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      • d0esnormalmatter
        4 years ago

        Why? You really should just do it. Get the idea out of your head that withholding from cumming from masterbation will make sex amazing the first time. If anything, you should learn your body and what help syou get off to help you partner.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          4 years ago

          That makes a whole lot of sense but at the same time I guess I'm just scared of the idea of masturbation. It fills me with dread and fear when I consider doing it. As well, I am disgusted by my own... bits (not due to lack of hygiene or anything, just the idea of it grosses me out. I am a bisexual woman, and only the thought of my own bits grosses me out.) No clue why. I know there's no negative consequences, and despite being religious, I really don't think God cares about me doing that.

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          • Boojum
            4 years ago

            Only you can figure out why you feel this way, but one thing is certain: you didn't pop out of your mother hating your own body. Somewhere along the line, you learned to believe that your genitals are gross and disgusting.

            It's likely that a lot of things led to you accepting this twisted, self-loathing view of your body. Women get all sorts of messages both blatant and subtle from all sorts of sources that their bodies are imperfect and their genitals are disgusting. Parents with sexual hang-ups are often an important influence. Advertising, religious leaders and comments made by ill-informed peers during childhood can be too.

            You're obviously free to continue to believe as you do since it's harming nobody but yourself. But that's a choice you make. It might not be easy, but you can learn to reject whatever negative messages you've received about your body and come to accept it.

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          • d0esnormalmatter
            4 years ago

            I have no clue why either. I felt similar to you, (except dick) when I was about 16 but for over 18 it's pretty unusual. However feelings of guilt are normal.

            Also it makes sense that you think your genetials are disgusting because they have never given you immense pleasure. Once you start having amazing O's you will begin to build an association with pleasure which should mitigate the grossness. Similar thing with sex, the idea often seems gross to a virgin, but once you know how good it feels, the grossness is no longer what you associate with sex.

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