Is it normal i never shared personal info about myself with friends?

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For as long as I've had friends, I've never really shared anything with them. They know basic stuff, My likes and dislikes, hobbies...etc. But never have I ever shared personal thoughts or secrets with them; like who my crushes were at school or what I thought about a certain person. I would never tell them about crushes because they might tell someone else (they are gossips) and it would get to the guy and it would be awkward as hell. I was a nerd in school, I was the worst possible girl a guy could have, I knew for a fact that he didn't like me, and I got bullied enough without some shitbrain teenager laughing at me because I had no hope of having him.

I never told them secrets because what if they turned on me and told everyone? What sense is there in telling someone outside your family your fears and darkest secrets? What comes of it? I've never shared things like that with my friends and will never. IIN?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    10 years ago

    It's pretty normal not to trust your friends in high school. I don't trust teenaged girls for shit.

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    • gummy_jr
      10 years ago

      *Virtual high fives you*

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  • filiasan
    10 years ago

    I think, if it's hard for a person to trust their friends, yes. I used to be like this, before I decided quality is better than quantity. Now I have few friends, but I know the difference between friends and 'acquaintances'.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    It's a shame you haven't met anyone that you can share yourself with.

    It's great.

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    Some things are private and personal even from people that you have complete trust in. Your sex life may be one. Also, what you may feel about people that the person you are talking with also knows.

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  • Sumi
    10 years ago

    Self protection I do the same. You need to work in layers. I have random stories of friends and good times that anyone could listen to. From there it slowly becomes serious and personal. Take some time to think about who can know what.

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  • chicanapride1041
    10 years ago

    Hey don't worry you're not alone. We can't trust everyone including our people we socially interact in our everyday lives, for some can be judgemental. For me I can only share personal things to my super close friends and my cousins. You don't have to be open to anyone but at least to one person who can keep your personal info. so you won't have them bottled up inside.

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  • bork
    10 years ago

    i don't think it's a big deal to be private. some people just don't like to say a lot about themselves. maybe you'll find someone who you want to share all this with immediately -- more likely, you'll open up slowly to someone who understands you and you get along with. And that will be years from now. Odds are, that person will have had similar experiences themselves.

    I wouldn't force it -- it's NORMAL to not feel like you're good friends with people who you are randomly forced to have social interactions with! give it a few years.

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  • nanawhite
    10 years ago

    It's normal. But it takes a lot of time to find special trustworhty people around you. And then, it takes a lot of courage to dare telling one's secrets. There is always a risk to open up one's heart to someone.

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  • eternalsmoke31
    10 years ago

    Are you sure they were your friends? Chicks can be brutal but if you cant trust them, you probably shouldnt call them friends.

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