Is it normal i never had a guy approach me and ask for my number before?

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I don't understand, I get compliments sometimes from strangers on being beautiful but I have literally never had a guy ask for my number before. It kind of makes me think that maybe I am not actually pretty. I hear of other women saying how a guy asks for their number but that absolutely never happens to me. Does it mean I am ugly if this never happens to me?

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  • controversy
    4 years ago

    Post pix for our expert opinions.

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  • cupcake_wants
    4 years ago

    You are still young and you will learn not to worry about it so much.

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  • CountessDouche
    4 years ago

    Strangers don't generally give compliments unless they mean them...complimenting a stranger is a little scary.

    Consider the guys' perspective here. Asking people out is sucky; it's scary; it means possible rejection & a major hit to the self esteem. It takes a lot of bravery to put yourself out there. Maybe you aren't giving them the go ahead with your body language. Maybe you arent smiling. Maybe you are unintentionally giving off the vibe that you aren't interested. It doesn't take much for people to give up, because everyone hates being rejected.

    It doesn't mean that you aten't beautiful, it means that other people are scared to ask you out. I encourage you to put yourself in their shoes & ask someone out. A lot of women complain without taking the initiative themselves.

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  • Nikclaire
    4 years ago

    I can't recall this ever happening. It's more likely a guy will fumble around and make an awkward move on me. It's normal.

    I wouldn't worry about it. Guys who ask for a phone number out of thin air are wannabe Chad dickheads anyway.

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    • CountessDouche
      4 years ago

      I'm not going to thumb this down, but I don't see why it's getting thumbed up...at all.

      What a nasty comment, NC. asking for your phone number is not an inappropriate or overly aggressive advance. Ffs, how do you expect people to contact you, via fucking fax...telegram?

      Maybe try a little empathy & consider the fact that there are a lot of men who are looking to date, fall in love, have casual sex, (or whatevs)& that approaching a stranger, whom you know nothing about, but are attracted to, can be incredibly scary & difficult & social anxiety inducing & that maybe, maybe,despite your nasty, hard up bitch stereotypes of men that happen to be good looking...that said men might be nervous around women and not know the best approach.

      I mean, c'mon! Just asking 4 someone's diggies is perfectly innocent & does not deserve your 4chan, 4th grade level nasties. Asking people out is hard...it's scary & it blows to get rejected & shit on. How hard is it to be respectful & kind & appreciate the compliment, even when you aren't into it? What an awful comment.

      Try being nice to people who put themselves out there.

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      • mauzi
        4 years ago | pl

        Probably upvoted himself as usual. just proved to be an incel by saying "chad" unironically, lmao. yet he roleplays as a 'Stacy' on here...huh

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        • CountessDouche
          4 years ago

          Hahahaha. The incels always out themselves. It's like they can't help it.

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      • Nikclaire
        4 years ago

        That all sounds great until you actually read the part in my comment where I said "out of thin air".

        Please try to comprehend my comment in context, before calling it nasty and juvenile.

        Asking for a womans phone number, that you have gotten to know, is very different than what I stated in my comment, and quite acceptable. Asking for a randoms digits is much more presumptuous.

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        • CountessDouche
          4 years ago

          I read it lol.

          And what's wrong with that, exactly? It's someone asking to have a conversation with you over the phone. How is that even remotely offensive???

          Asking people out is shitty & scary. It should be taken as a compliment. It's not like he licked your ear ffs

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          • [Old Memory]
            4 years ago

            Countess, please tell me how a guy walking up to a woman he's never met and saying, "hey there, what's your number?" before he even knows her name is being complimentary? She should feel awesome because some weirdo thinks she's hot and probably an easy lay?

            Never in my life had I asked a woman for her number straight out. It's completely classless, it's desperate, a lot of the time it's a dude looking for a quick fuck, and sure as hell shouldn't be taken as a compliment.

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            • Nikclaire
              4 years ago

              Thank you.

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            • CountessDouche
              4 years ago

              It's not necessarily complimentary, nor is it smooth talking, but it's certainly not fucking offensive & NC's fucking butthurt, nasty response is certainly not warranted.

              Big fucking deal if a guy asks you out in a slightly uncouth & socially awkward or sex seeking way. Who fucking cares? He did not comment on your body or cat call you or grab you or say anything remotely offensive. If you aren't interested, fine. Politely reject & move on.

              Her name calling is completely unwarranted. If someone expresses interest in a way that isn't offensive, I do not see the problem & I find the her comment to be straight up nasty. I think asking people out/expressing interest takes a lot of guts, and if it's done in a non-offensive way, then women should quit being nasty shits & treating every advance like it's an assault. That takes away from shit we should be worried about.

              Advances you dislike, as long as they are respectful, are simply not offensive. Unwad your panties.

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    • Skarmatic
      4 years ago

      Or even worse, a Kyle.

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      • Nikclaire
        4 years ago

        Or much worse, a Duft

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        • CountessDouche
          4 years ago

          Duft is love. Duft is the minty gum that stays minty for hours. Duft is what we need. Duft man can't breathe...ohhhh noooo

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          • Nikclaire
            4 years ago

            If you like freak stalkers

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            • CountessDouche
              4 years ago

              Oh baby jebus! You right...you know what? She's also replied to me on a public forum where I posted public comments, publicly...holy shit.

              Omg...I'm calling fucking triple zero...HOW FUCKING DARE SHE REPLY TO MY COMMENTS ON A PUBLIC FORUM.

              Holy shit. She's stalking us. HIDE!!! GET YOUR GOAT HOOF CUTTING TOOL!!!! what are we gonna dooooooooo

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  • notsure4sure
    4 years ago

    In this pc world no smart guy will do that anymore, women now have to be the direct and obvious ones or no date for you. Internet dating sites are the only place ppl will do that now

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  • EvergreenVanBuren
    4 years ago

    It could mean that they think you're already dating someone, or that you could be out of their league.

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  • PeterFalk
    4 years ago

    Give it time and maybe build your self esteem up. I don't mean that in a bad way. Only trying to help. I have a sister that I try to help on the daily with doubting herself. I'm sure you are beautiful.

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  • bbrown95
    4 years ago

    No, it doesn't mean you're ugly. I also get called beautiful and have only had it happen once many moons ago. It sucked though, because the guy gave off a very weird vibe and followed me for a bit (after I had politely declined to give him my number) until I walked past a security officer.

    I think why it doesn't happen to you depends on several things. First of all, many guys are extremely nervous about it and fear rejection or a bad reaction from the girl. Secondly, if you are more isolated from the world (I'm this way, I work mostly by myself and have a small circle of friends), you're less likely to be approached as well.

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  • leggs91200
    4 years ago

    One thing you could do is start hanging out in the hood.
    If you are a white woman, it is guaranteed you can find someone in the hood who will be interested and not afraid to ask.
    Not sure if you like black dudes but that seems to be what most white women are settling for nowadays.

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    Is this a concern because you are that shallow?

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  • WashYaDoggy
    4 years ago

    Yes

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