Is it normal i miss being with my ex but don't want to get back together?

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She was my first love, and I still love her and I know she loves me still, we are still good frineds. We dated on and off for 3 years. There was never a singular bad moment that caused the relationships to end, we never cheated on each other or anything, the issue was just our personalities clashed so severely it was draining being around her. One of the times we broke it off my friends told me they were glad because they said I looked like the walking dead, being with her and her 'quirks' just absolutely drained the life out of me. They were right after the tears left I would feel lighter, like I literally felt like a weight was gone that had been dragging me down.

I don't want to get back together again the last time was the last time, being with her drained me and the break ups hurt us both, me especially.
That said I do miss her I still love her, and while our relationship was certainly toxic there were still good moments, for all our issues it was comforting being able to hold someone I knew truly loved me.

is it normal I don't want to get back together and yet I still miss her?

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  • Jayemen
    7 years ago

    It's normal, but..Don't overthink it or drive yourself crazy. Missing the good times is expected, and a bit sad, however..She's an ex for a reason. Things happened that prompted a split.

    In my own case, I do miss my ex-wife, at least the good times, but also remember the not so good: her alcoholism, disappearing acts (usually for drinking purposes), and shutting me out of her life when I was trying to work on things with her. I do remember the good and it's a great feeling, balanced out by the reality of "but"..

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  • ViolentKitty
    7 years ago

    Of course. It sounds more to me that you miss the good parts of being in a relationship; cuddling, always having someone there, etc. You may not exactly miss HER, because technically she's still in your life. It might be time for you to put yourself out there again and meet some new people.

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  • ZaneT
    7 years ago

    Yes it is normal to feel that way. Sometimes looking back, things can seem better. Ultimately, you have made your choice because of the valid reasons outlined. You sound like you are pretty mature and are coming to terms with things. Good luck for your future!

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Yea completely normal. You can always like the good memories

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