Is it normal i'm very jealous of other people's special moments/experiences?

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I don't quite know how to explain this, and I don't know why I think like this.

I'm in college at a large university, so I'm constantly walking around campus, to the library and my dorm, to class. I'll be worrying about my next exam, paper, assignment, blah blah blah. But sometimes, I'll come across a scene that "stops me in my tracks" (I don't actually stop walking because that would be weird).

The scenes I'm talking about are like special little "moments"/experiences that I observe other people having. For example, earlier this evening I was coming home from a long time working at the library. Outside my dorm there's this picnic table. Someone was lying on top of the picnic table laying on their back. Another person was with them, sitting on one of the side benches. It just stuck me as a simple, enjoyable moment that these two people were experiencing together...and it made me surprisingly sad and very jealous. I guess it might be because I don't have any close friends really. I don't have anyone to have special experiences with. I'm starting to think it's not possible for me to have these moments. What is wrong with me? I spend all my time thinking about classes and deadlines and assignments. But when I die, am I going to remember that crap? No. I would remember my experiences with other people. Other examples of these moments would be: when I saw this guy help a girl down the stairs because she had a broken leg, then light a cigarette for her. Also once I saw a couple just standing in a field, putting their foreheads together.

I just feel awful when I observe these things, because I want them so much. Is this normal?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I commend you on doing what you are in school to do. You've plenty of time for those special moments/experiences, after you complete the task at hand.
    Just like the high school jock or cheerleaders many in college who go for the parties and sex, that is their peak in life, whereas someone like you has nothing but those special moments/experiences to look forward to in life.
    You'll be fine, just be patient.

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    Its normal to want special moments with a friend or a love...
    maybe you are too focused on school work? Life is all about balance ...you need to find a nice middle ground between work and relationships.

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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    I agree you won't carry that to the grave...I'm just out and I feel like it was a waste already. That said while you are studying, others are having fun and you feel left out but when it comes down to excelling academically, they will wish they were you! If you feel real lonely create a study group or get a study partner.

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  • Pika-girl
    9 years ago

    Aw... *shoosh-paps* There, there. It's just that you want to have those special moments, too. Maybe school's in the way. There's so much to worry about and focus on. Hey, you know what? Try to find someone that you can share those special moments with at school. So, you could do whatever, study, or something with each other!

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