Is it normal i'm too submissive to dom?
I've always considered myself a submissive, but I always thought I was open to trying new things. My boyfriend is also submissive; He's a masochist, rope bunny, and slave mainly. I can't bring myself to dom him.
It's not a matter of being vanilla. I'm into very hard kinks beyond his. Yet the thought of domming him is a big turn off to me and I can't bring myself to tell him. I've tried choking him before and I just felt quite uncomfortable being in a dominant position, but he liked it so I just tried to focus on the aspect of me being able to pleasure him. He wants to try harder things and I'm just not sure if I can do it. The thought of even having him in a ball gag makes me nearly cry due to the uncomfortableness.
Additionally, I've always looked for a dominant male who would treat me with zero respect in the bedroom and do whatever he pleases and leave bruises/cuts/etc on me; Or simply a sadist. I love my boyfriend to death, but I wish he wasn't so submissive as it makes me uncomfortable and it's a turn off.
If anyone's been in this situation before please share what you've done to either help yourself become more dominant or encourage your partner to do so.