Is it normal i'm tired of helping friends and family?

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Yes, I know I sound like a bad person, but I feel like I'm done helping people. You may think I'm exaggerating, but literally everyday someone asks me for some favor. Drive them here. Take their kids there. Baby/Dog/House sit. I'm glad that people feel like they can count on me, but it's gotten to the point where it's like a habit for these people to ask me. I know I have the option to say No - and believe me I have - but now every time someone calls me for a favor, I feel such resentment. Is it normal to be tired of helping the people closest to you? I mean, don't most people feel great when helping others?

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  • privatepropertykeepout
    7 years ago

    I hear where you're coming from,yes we all like helping others out,but if it's not returned or appreciated, or its just expected, that's when it be comes a burden ,and well when is enough,,ENOUGH.

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  • Keepsake
    7 years ago

    Yeah, there's a point in time where someone may just take advantage of you since you're always there for them. Just tell them you're too busy or explain to them how the favors are getting out of hand.

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  • peterrabbyt69
    7 years ago

    I sucked my cousin off, does that count?

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  • unionclocks
    7 years ago

    Normal - i think so?
    Healthy...idk.

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  • ZaneT
    7 years ago

    There's nothing wrong with helping people but you have to use discretion when deciding who to help. Otherwise you're just going to feel used and flat instead of energised and upbeat.. Learn to say no, especially to the users. Help others but not to your detriment. Remember, not everyone has the capacity to return the favour so to speak, especially when helping a stranger etc., but you must use discretion to discriminate between the genuine and the fake cases. What goes around comes around. Ultimately once you strart practicing saying no occasionally, people will not be lining up to use you as much, if at all.

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  • MadeAnotherAccountIWasBanned
    7 years ago

    I love helping people.

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    i think i see what your saying

    as in, people dont appreciate the things you do for them anymore?

    you shouldnt force yourself to do something you dont want to do

    you dont have to do it. this is probaley why you're feeling the resentment

    just dont do it. its your choice. its not the end of the world for the other person

    they also have to understand its your choice

    your not a slave

    of course if you want to do it for them, then sure :) but in the end its up to you

    you dont always have to help, so dont feel bad about it

    its your choice

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