Is it normal i'm thinking about this?

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My brother is getting married and he's told me that my girlfriend is welcome too and I can't decide whether to bring her or not
There are no problems in our relationship, she's great, funny, smart attractive she has a great taste in music and films and the list goes on yeah we argue occasionally over stupid things but who doesn't, it almost seems unhealthy to go through an relationship without that and we don't argue often, even wephen we do it's more bickering, things are going great but the problem is we've only been dating for a few
months
It might seem cynical but the only thing I can think about was an experience with my brother's ex, he went to a wedding with her and was in all the pictures then a few months later they broke up and its always bothered him that he's now etched in that wedding and the memories as " the ex " who happens to be in all the photos leaving a mark on an otherwise intimate family and friends event
Like i said things are going great but life, relationships and especially people can be unpredictable so if things don't last between us (even though I want it to) I can see a similar thing happening, you can just never tell months into a relationship,

also after only dating few months I don't know if the invitation is out of politeness more than actually wanting her there
But on the other hand I don't want to upset her by not inviting her, I don't want her to take it as a comment or sign, and I would look forward to us being at a big family event like this, I don't know what to do, and is it normal that I'm even considering this?

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  • kradmelder
    8 years ago

    It is a dilemma. Another issue is that her mind might turn to her own wedding. Women get romantic about weddings. You might start getting hints.

    My first date with with my x was to a wedding. A very good friend of mine's and it was a military wedding. Military and police was about my entire social circles then. She didn't seem to mind but later she said she hated all my security forces friends and our life. Too late to say that then, when you are busy trying to alienate your partner from his friends. Yet this hatred didn't override the romanticism of weddings. If she had said that then I would have dropped her early as non-compatible.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Yeah, I think you're concern is understandable. My sister's ex fiancé was a pallbearer at my grandfather's funeral and he was in all the pictures. He was like family, but now that's all gone. It's weird.

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  • klebo
    8 years ago

    If you care or lovery her it's only the right thing to invite her,include her in some pictures and do some without talk to her and see if she wants to be included in pictures who knows she may say she doesn't want to be in them, tell her you love her and tell her the story of your brothers ex and how you worry and assure her you want things to work out but scares you a little, I think you might be surprised she might not want to be in the pictures

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