Is it normal i'm terrified of having sex for the first time ?

My best advice to you is to get thee to a sex shop and buy a smallish dildo. Take care of it yourself, in your own time. No judgement or embarrassment necessary.

I've been on the other end of this situation and seen how upset it made my partner. Regardless of the way I present myself on here I am probably one of the nicest, most respectful partners anyone is likely to have but I still found it impossible to help my partner not have their own difficulties.

I highly suggest you make this a private affair. You may even be pleasantly surprised. I had a 21 year old that was a virgin earlier this year and she had somehow already inadvertently broke her hymen and there was no pain or blood at all. Horse or bicycle riding among other things can do this.

I can kind of relate - I'm a man but I lost my virginity to another man at 21 and it did hurt and suck big time.

Also I was drunk and he was a random guy met at a party.

Sorry I might not be helping much. But sex is a lot less scarier now for me even though it still freaks me out from time to time. Just know that it's completely normal to feel uncomfortable. We'll get used to it eventually.

What do you mean by frigid? If you mean that you never or rarely become sexually aroused or that you can't or have difficulty reaching orgasm by yourself, those feelings need to be sorted out before you even consider having sex with someone else.

To have sex for the first time because of any "shoulds" is going to be a disaster, or almost certainly so.

Pain isn't always an issue with the physical breaking of the hymen and in any event many women have either no hymen or not one that obstructs the vagina at all. I didn't notice a thing the first time I had sex, either pleasure (it was a teenager like myself) or any pain, it was a total non-event. It did get better later though!

I think it's a mistake to focus on losing your virginity as such and it would be healthier to focus on discovering your own sexuality and then keeping an eye out for someone you'd like to be in a sexual relationship with, someone patient and respectful but with some sexual experience of his or her own.

I don't recommend a dildo or anything similar at this stage: your own fingers will tell you what you enjoy without having to worry about pain or embarrassment.

Good luck!

It didn't hurt me, but I spent years in ballet, did some gymnastics and was constantly riding my bike. I'm glad I didn't bleed. Some ass background cultures think if the girl doesn't bleed she's not a virgin and so they discourage athleticism among young girls. Yet another reason to not support multiculturalism, and political correctness. King Termite actually has a good idea there. I don't think you'd actually lose your virginity until you have sex with a guy. This hymen business us stupid.

Keep it girl. It is so beautiful.

Just "accidentally" fall on a dildo. Hymen should be all gone

I'd say.. masturbate when u can, and slowly try to put a finger in when ur feeling wet.

If it hurts your first time, you're not ready

It's not going to hurt that bad. My advice: masturbate a lot internally so you get used to having fingers or toys inside of you. I broke my own hymen in this fashion and there was no pain at all. Secondly, make sure you are very excited and wet when your partner goes into you! It won't hurt :)

Hi,obviously i cant understand where your coming from fully but i do know when you decide to become a woman you will need the guy to be realy gentle with you,reassuring and most importantly patient because its not everyday you give away your 'cherry.'
Call me...i might be able to help.