Is it normal i'm practically a virgin and don't know what men want in bed!

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I have only been with like 3 guys. The one was super religious and only liked missionary.The other one was drunk and didn't care what we did.The other guy I could never make him happy in bed. I want to do something special for my new dude for valentine's day. But I am so horrible in bed. I orgasm too loud( my last bf said so)and don't have much experience. I Like to give as well as receive I can hold on pretty well but I am really really bad on top.I try asking what they want and they just say whatever? I get the feeling I should be doing something while I am laying there but I don't know what? I tried to dirty talk with this one guy but I made his laugh instead of turning him on?I am willing to explore but as long as it doesn't involve spanking and that 50 shades of grey shit
( that pisses me off)

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kingofcarrotflowers

9 years ago | pl

As long as it doesn't involve poorly written literature?

* I believe the words are oh snap *

Hmm, well different men like different things, and I'm not talking about the niche stuff, different men like different things in vanilla sex too, if they're just saying " whatever " show them how you like it, if there's a certain thing you like or that just...gets you, maybe you taking the lead like that will make him feel comfortable showing you if there's something he likes, and who knows maybe you taking the lead like that is his thing, or will turn out to be his his

But, let me probably just make all of that irrelevant by saying

Ha

Look at me giving out sex advice XD

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- GreenPelican
  
  9 years ago
  
  "I believe the words are oh snap"
  
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  - kingofcarrotflowers
    
    9 years ago
    
    ............yeah?
    
    You obviously don't know me as a user or my writing style and vocabulary therefore you won't know that me using a phrase like " I believe the word is oh snap " is a form of verbal irony, a joke within itself
    
    Even so, if someone did use it honestly why be judgemental about it?
    
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      9 years ago
      
      I get that, I just think it's a lame phrase. I also don't care to know you as a user nor your writing style and vocabulary.
      
      Even so, you were being judgmental of her literature in the first place so your point is null and void.
      
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        9 years ago
        
        No in was agreeing with op about that it pissing me off too but you know what? Fair point
        
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GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

9 years ago

Just be you. If its meant to be he'll love you for it.

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

Sex is one of those things you can only get good at by doing it a lot. Nobody is born a talented lover.
You need to be with guys who can communicate their needs and likes to you, not some schmuck that says "oh whatever". That guy is some immature jerk only interested in getting laid.
Sorry, but if your guy can't be bothered to help his lover (you) pleasure him, then he's not worth your time.

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shuggy-chan

9 years ago

Try using the vagina

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- RapidlyRotatingPanda
  
  9 years ago
  
  Are you quite certain???
  That sounds suspect at best.
  
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    9 years ago
    
    I know, go figure?
    
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RichDomin

9 years ago

Would you go to a ten year old to get advice about physics?

Now there are many older men who are indeed total douchebags, however, far more younger ones. ;-)

Those guys over forty, who are fit, can dance well and flirt intelligently, take a few of them to bed, maybe from time to time as a group, in the spirit of brainstorming and the brain trust concept. Experience, as one writer pointed out is a sure cure for ignorance.

And with the highly religious guy, I think wearing a nun's habit might have helped, though there are some who need you to put on a strap on on and show them.

Older, if you are an ageist, then work your way up, but if you are a clever young lady, just start at fifty and work your way down.

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laxman209

9 years ago

Men generally dictate sex, unless the women doesn't like certain things, let him move you body to positions that'll sexually excite him & will make you feel the pleasure of great sex. By that you'll learn what your man likes and easily move into those positions. And men act differently to how women moan.

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TheChakraMantra

9 years ago

You've had sex. You're not a virgin -_-"

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Dad

9 years ago

Yep lots of advice up there to confuse you more.
The secret is guys really don't care less what you do, sure girls want guys to work hard at getting every spot and doing their PERFECT best at sex; but guys expect ZERO from girls except to take it all anyway they like.
So its an oxymoron sentence to ask what guys want in sex. They are just happy to reach orgasm and go to sleep (but no guy wants to admit this to their partner) So sad.

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farkelu

9 years ago

Try dating older men ;-)

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iEatZombies_

9 years ago

The best sex advice I can give you is date nicer guys. Your sex life will improve immensely.

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Terence_the_viking

9 years ago

A virgin can have three sexual partners?

SO I AM A VIRGIN TOO

WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH i thought i lost my virginity i was so happy you just destroyed my life you SLAG.

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chained_rage

9 years ago

I detest people who refer to their boyfriends as "my dude".
So I refuse to give you my valuable advice

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- iEatZombies_
  
  9 years ago
  
  I call mine my Fancypants.
  
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Who_Fan4Life

9 years ago

Am I the only who laughed at the part about the one dude being super religious and only liked doing it MISSIONARY-style?

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- chained_rage
  
  9 years ago
  
  I laughed so hard inside my head at that one
  
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- Chocolatesoda
  
  9 years ago
  
  omg,this is so bad but I cracked up so bad when he told me that God would strike us dead if we did anything but missionary.Especially if we did it doggie style.HE WAS DEAD SERIOUS.
  
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Barracuda

9 years ago

ima message you to give you some tips because its about to get naughty in here....

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wistfulmaiden

9 years ago

One is either a virgin or... Not. No practically! Lol
Anyways don't worry about details you and whoever will figure it out.

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GreenPelican

9 years ago

Study this
http://puu.sh/fOtjr/a67130e5fb.GIF

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dongwhan

9 years ago

seems from reading lots and lots of IIN questions on this site that alot,alot,alot of guys like to have things shoved up their butts. You should try slapping your new lover across the face with a big rubber dong and asking him "who's your daddy" and then sticking it up his butt until he screams out an orgasm like you do

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kelili

9 years ago

You're either a virgin or not. That said practice comes with perfect. Guys are not so demanding, just have some nice underwear and they will be happy. Try caress and kisses during sex. I'm sure you're not that bad.

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regisphilbin

9 years ago

you should immediately dump any guy who laughs when you talk dirty. oh and orgasming too loud is never a bad thing (unless you're trying to hide it from the parents) so i'm glad that you dumped that guy

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Freedom_

9 years ago

One of my exes told me to "just go with the flow" and that's probably the most helpful sex advice I've ever gotten from a partner. Every time you will learn a little more about what he likes and what you like. I personally detest talking about what I like right before sex because it ruins the spontaneity.

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Mytwin295

9 years ago

But bondage is fun. At least then you wont be able to do or say anything stupid ;)

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