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I'm a woman first of all but never liked having my arse penetrated or licked.
I give the occasional rim job but it's not something that turns me on that much. I would do it to please my partner (me doing the rimming, pounding or fingering). However I always get tense when my butt is touched with the intent of probing.
Do I have issues or is it ok?
On the one hand, everyone likes different things, and that's fine. If you've thoroughly experimented with anal and anal play and decide you don't like it, great. It sounds like you haven't done much, though, and are avoiding doing more out of fear, and if that's the case then you're very likely missing out on a lot of pleasure.
I understand, but often there can be a wall to get past before you do, especially if you have a mental block about it or past experiences that make it hard to relax and enjoy it. A lot of people associate their ass only with pooping and don't think about it sexually and so can't feel the pleasure it's capable without a little bit of practice and mental "rewiring" by associating anal stimulation with known sexual pleasures like clitoral stimulation.
If you have any interest in learning to like it, this is what I would suggest:
Set aside a good period of alone time, go to the bathroom, take a bath, put on some porn that you enjoy and gets you off, and start playing with your clit while you take a single lubricated finger and start rubbing your anus externally. Try to masturbate to orgasm while doing this, continuing to rub your ass while you cum. Repeat occasionally. If you enjoy it after a few times, even if rubbing your ass didn't add anything to the experience yet, the next time try slipping that finger into your ass and sliding it in and out while you play with your clit. Continue building from there if it starts to feel good over time.
The key is to always play with your clit while you play with your ass and to try and give yourself an orgasm while something's in or otherwise stimulating your ass.
Its Ok to be a lil nervous initially... even my wife was always dicey bout it... one day I just went there without telling her and she hasnt complained/ stopped me ever since....lol.... guess u just need to relax n loosen up... ;-)