Is it normal i'm in my 20's and am most comfortable around older people?

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I'm in my mid-twenties, but am most comfortable around people ages 40+. Even when I was a child, I preferred to be with the adults over other children most of the time. I still enjoy the company of people my own age, but feel more relaxed and comfortable around older people. I think it may be because I was bullied throughout school and am kind of intimidated by others my age and expect them to judge me. I feel that my best conversations are also with older people, though. They just seem to flow better.

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    Some people steer clear of their own age group.
    After all, it is people our own age (whatever age that may be) that caused whatever insecurities we have.

    When someone is older than us by more than a couple years, the annoying part is when they try to give life advice. The worst is when people our own age try that shit. When someone my age tries to do that, I cut ties quickly.

    I am over 40 and find the ideal group to associate with are those late 20's to about mid 30's. They are mature (usually) but not old, demeaning, and unsightly like my age and older.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I think that is probably why I tend to feel a bit intimidated by my own age group as well. I was bullied throughout school and kids and even young adults tend to be pretty cruel to each other sometimes, so I guess my brain assumes that people my age are more likely to harshly judge me, though I admittedly need to quit caring so much.

      I actually appreciate the life advice offered to me by older people, though. I feel I have pretty good judgment and either take or leave what they have to offer, but I've learned quite a bit (but mostly from my parents). When people my own age do it though, the advice is usually pretty poor and I've watched some of them follow their own advice and end up in a mess. I don't like to be lectured constantly or anything, but I enjoy hearing life stories and lessons from people who have been through stuff I have yet to go through.

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      • leggs91200
        5 years ago

        I think though if there were ONE piece of advice I could give to anyone younger, it would be this -
        Try not to get yourself into anything that you cannot easily get out of.
        Things like marriage, having kids, joining the military, trouble with the law, student debt...

        Of course people try to tell you how to live but we each have to choose our own paths.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          That's very true, and that's good advice! I've noticed that a lot of people my age seem to be in a big hurry to get married and have children, even if it's not what they really want or they haven't really thought it through yet, and I've seen the consequences that brings, so I'm in no rush at all and am not really sure either of those things will be for me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Old soul hay

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  • litelander8
    5 years ago

    I have friends that are older than me and my age. I wasn't bullied. Most people do say that I'm an old soul. But I appreciate the camaraderie of all ages.

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  • CountessDouche
    5 years ago

    I'm sure that they appreciate your company. You seem thoughtful & well spoken. I do urge you to try & find a peer group that you can relate to because people of a different generation just won't get certain things about your life & relating to people your own age is important. Having said that, it's really nice that you've been able to ignore social boundaries & find people to engage with in spite of the bullying. Lots of people just shut down.

    If not now, maybe as you get older, you'll be able to relate to people your own age.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Thank you! I do have friends my own age as well, but have noticed that it's harder to connect to people my age in general than older people.

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