Is it normal i'm aspie and i dont want friends?

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I keep reading that aspies "want" friends, but are too socially awkward to make them. I don't "want" friends, they just happen accidentally. When I say I don't want friends, people "correct" me and tell me that I do want friends. It annoys me.

I like socializing once in a while, but relationships (platonic or otherwise) are just too emotionally draining and time consuming for me. not to mention endlessly complicated and saturated in needless drama.

After work I want to indulge in my hobbies and relax in a quiet space. Work is also emotionally draining and I need down time to RELAX. I hate feeling obligated to meet someone and listen to their boring gossip just to maintain ties.

I would be happy meeting a friend a couple times a month and I wouldn't feel any less close to them, but my friends want to hang out literally every freaking day and I have to make excuses to avoid them. It is driving me insane.

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  • Cymbalism
    8 years ago

    Everyone has different levels of social needs and yours are just on the low end. It's perfectly normal. If you tell your friends that sometimes you just want to spend some time by yourself, they should understand.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      well I do tell them I want some alone time but even being direct they still can't take the hint.

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  • Shrunk
    8 years ago

    Same. I only try because I feel like I have to, I like people and all I just don't like socializing much...But apparently they get offended if you don't hang out with them a lot so it's hard to meet people monthly like you said without them nearly forgetting you...would you want friends though if you only had to see them monthly? I'm sure there are people who would be fine with that and get along with you...

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      yeah.. I like having acquaintances and I'm not a grouch.. I'm friendly. I just value my 'alone time'. What I hate most is that most jobs require 2 or 3 references and I don't know anyone well enough to ask them to be my reference, aside from my friends who are childish goofballs. They would probably ruin my chances if I gave out their numbers.

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