Is it normal i'm almost 18, she's 14 and we're dating?

There is a German saying: "Wo die Liebe hinfällt" (When love takes hold of you)

It is normal to fall in love with this girl for the reason that she probably is physically attractive and attractive concerning her personality; at least to you.

Society's fucking dumb to put such restrains to it... I think 14 is old enough in most cases concerning their mental capabilities of deciding things (like this) on their own...

Doesn't it worry you that she lied?

Maybe you should give it a couple of years. A four year age gap is quite considerable when you're that young.

no not good idea, she is under age and you can be imprisoned. Stick to your own age.

Look. Human biology knows no laws. She is most likely past puberty and is able to bear children, ergo it is biologically normal to find her attractive.

That does not change the laws. You most likely live in a country where intercourse or sexual contact between the two of you will be deemed illegal.

Don't go doing something stupid because you think you will both be together forever, you indeed may die together at a ripe old age, but the odds are against that. You both are far from the end of your emotional, psychological and physical development. If you sleep with her now, she may charge you at a later date. Such cases have no statutory limitation. She may be be influenced by family or perhaps a new boyfriend looking for some victim compensation. Either way, don't sleep with her. You may live the rest of your life regretting it.

If you wait, you will both appreciate each other for it.

do not be restrained by mans law - God has thrown you together and Love transcends petty social constraints - Just look at the age of consent in different countries and you will see that in some countries you would have no problem - you are young too - you are not a paedophile - you are a human being with feelings.

18 and 14 might be a big gap, but, say, 20 and 24 isn't much, so yeah, I'd say to just wait a while.

I'd try to find someone your age. People change as they mature. She still has a lot of maturing to do, as do you. I mean that with no offense. Its just life.

1. What is the legal age of your country?
2. Why aren't you concerned that she lied? If she will lie about that she could just as easily lie about other things, some of which could possibly land you into hot water.

Yes it is completely normal. When i was 14 i was with a 27 year old and am still with him. love has a strong bond. people judge but in all actuality you cant control who you love:)

That age gap is normal, but she's still very young.
As long as you don't plan on banging her some time soon, it's okay.

I dont think this is wrong. Just dont have sex, wait until both of you are at least 18. Also be careful not to put yourself in a situation where people might have a reason to question your actions. For example, keep the door open when you are in a bedroom together. Also get to know her parents and other family members well.

Yes normal and she is consenting.

Totally normal. Don't listen to haters. When I fell in love with a donkey, I was shunned by my family, but I knew that nobody could get between our love. Once I pass my psychological evaluation, I am going to get out of this place and surprise him at his ranch.

I wouldn't say it's socially acceptable, but I don't find it all that odd. You're a young male attracted to a young female. You're both in your reproductive years and you're not extremely far apart in age gap.

It is not that much about the age gap. 4 years is not that much. However, she is still too young, but most important, she is at another stage in life. You will soon be an adult and have other responsibilities, while she will still be in high school. You will soon want to do different activities, and one or the other will have to acommodate. She will have to give up her teenage years or you will have to give up growing up.

I say that you stick together, but don't get serious. Let her be a teenager and you start making your own life already. If you are meant for each other, you will get together eventually and be happy.

There should totally be a category named "I'm X and he/she X". Seriously, 90% of the post I see lately are about this.

If you really love one another you both can wait for her to turn the proper age.

Its kind of funny but I too had a girl that I loved who was 14 and I was 18 sad to say she didnt feel the same way it didnt work out anyways if you Love each other thats what matters you may have.to wait until shes older but if your love can last I dont.see nothing wrong with it.

My parent are 11 years exactly (same birthday) and they have been together for 20 years. So ya i guess it os normal.

Just dont do anything you might regret *ahem, sex* and stick to kisses and holding hands until she had the proper age. Im dating a 16 yr old and im 19 so its normal, love is a powerful force <3

I was in the exact same situation as you were. When I was 17, I was falling for a girl who had just turned 14, but I thought she was 15 at the time. By the time I found out she was a year younger I had already fallen in love with her. She actually lied to me about something when I first met her too. What are the odds? Anyway, it probably won't work out. It sure didn't work out for us, and now we're barely friends anymore. I miss when we were bestfriends but I fucked that up by telling her how I felt.

My parents are 3 years and some months apart and they've been together around 25 years

However they did meet when they were in their mid thirties.

I don't like to judge love although from an outsiders perspective it's seems a bit of a steep gap just because one would assume you are at very different stages and maturity levels in life.

i was in the exact same position I loved and still love this girl with all my heart. but her parents found out and banned her from talking to me until she is 16 which is legal age in my country.what i'm trying to say here is don't do something stupid like i did and try and hide it because people always find out.my advice would be to stop dating and stay best friends until she is old enough that way you can still talk and hang out with her. because that's what i wish i did if i did that i wouldn't have to wait another 2 years to talk to the girl i love. learn from my mistakes.

Whatever happens just remember she started lying to you right from the start.

Thanks for your comments, i'm in a very difficult situation.

I plan to continue our relationship without any sex. Which will be difficult because she want's to, and so do i, but we shall resist our desires

-_- .That's generally not accepted in our society, but as long as you don't sleep with her...yet,you'll be fine.

Itll be socially acceptable once she turns 18. As long as you two are happy and arent having sex (she could blackmail you and file for statutory rape), i say its ok.