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Personally, I want to wait until marriage before I have sex. You may be thinking that it is for religious reasons, but the main reasons for me wanting to wait are secular. I'm tempted, but I can see so many complications arising from me sleeping around.
Is that a normal thing?
The reason why people would assume you'd be doing it for religious reasons is that many religious people have the same desire. I think it's normal, just not expected. You know what is best for you.
Under the right circumstances, I could see myself going this course and being happy with my decision. If the love is real, then it's possible.
Sorry, I meant I would have to do it for love. The way you put it, "for security reasons", makes it sound like you work for a certain government agency or something. Would you mind elaborating on it?
For one, I don't want to use a condom: If I have sex I want my semen in her (to me using a condom is like being bulimic). If I go around being promiscuous under this condition then I'm putting myself at risk for unwanted pregnancies and STDs. Secondly, I want to give an "In your face" (no sexual innuendo intended) to some people.
Those are very practical reasons for waiting. I really do like your analogy of condom use, hehehe. ...and if you're not willing to use one, then waiting for the most serious romantic relationship of your life makes a lot of sense. I can also appreciate your dissident stance.
One more thing, who are 'some people' ?
Well, you could be a bit more careful to whom you sleep with and make sure that she's on the pills.
Myself I do not see the point in waiting with sex, mostly because sex is such an important thing (to me) and I do believe that you need to experiment some to find your thrills and turn ons. What if the woman you end up getting married with turns out to not interest you sexually?
Yes, but people will assume otherwise if you say so. Just ignore the arrogant idiots though.
Sex is like any other physical activity; it takes practice to be proficient an it. So if you wait until marriage, you will not be able to please your spouse at all for a while, unless she is pretty experienced, which doesn't sound like the sort of girl you are looking for.
What you are hoping for here is a recipe for disaster; a very short, unhappy first marriage. Perhaps you should think things through a bit better.