Iin, i'm a drunken party hard christian but i feel like an anomaly?

I'm 21. I go out at least 3 times a week and can get smashed consecutively because I don't get hangovers. I can pull (make out) with a different guy every night, and will if I feel like it. Most of the time I go to a club to dance though but my dancing at times (as well as clothes) can be a little too sexy. At any time I can be talking to 2/3 guys at once but of course I don't make a show of it, it's all on the down low...but this is because I don't see any future with those guys. Foremost I see myself as christian.
I'm promiscuous in the shallowest sense (kissing/making out) but, i'm also a virgin and will give up nothing to a guy i'm not in a relationship with.

The men i've dated can't comprehend this though. Christian guys see me as unobtainabl/too social/un-tradiational. Non-christian guys expect me to give it up the day we meet. I can't say the number of times i've been asked for threesomes, one night stands etc. but that's not at all what i'm about. My christian friends don't go out, party or understand my type of fun. My non-christian friends sleep around and party but respect my choices to remain religious and celibate.

It saddens me to realize that a man I find attractive thinks so little about sex/relationships/women etc. it completely takes him off my radar and sometimes I wonder if I should just be that girl...but I don't want to be. I have a hard enough time finding anyone really like me, let alone a guy like me. I feel like an anomaly.

I'm hot, my image to most is the party girl who knows everyone, is entertaining and knows how to have a good time. But I still attend church 3 times a week, work 3 jobs and am juggling a degree.

(Sorry there are clearly a lot more issues here than just the way I feel)

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  • TwoThumbs

    Being a Christian has nothing to do with drinking or partying or making out. It has everything to do with accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savoir. Or at least as I understand it.

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  • Cshorty

    Hey I dont know you so just know I'm not judging you at all. I'm not making assumtions about your life. Im sure you have great intentions as a Christian, Just want to to out there Christians are supposed to be lights of the world bringing thsoe to christ. – Matthew 5:14-16 (NIV) . And in Romans 12:2 "o not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will." My point as a Christian you arent supposed to fit in, and blend in wiht the world. When you drink and party like that it makes it hard for others to see you as a Christian. Christian guys are looking for girls who are devoted to God, and love God. Through loving God it shows in their actions. The bible does say you are saved by grace and faith....but remember James 2:14-26 says a faith without works is dead. That doesn't mean you work your way to heaven by being "good" but that through faith and loving God it shows through your actions.

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    • superpandapear

      how do you prove that our bible is true and reliable?

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      • Take this argument elsewhere.

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  • Avant-Garde

    There are many secular people who see themselves as being Christians who do this.

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    • I don't know any.

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      • Avant-Garde

        That's a shame. I would suggest finding a group/club for secular Christians but that might be difficult to find as I don't know if such a club even exists. If it did it would be more than likely, a secular club in general.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome

    Feels like it's not so much about christian and non christian guys then it is about serious and shallow relationships. The man looking for a woman to share his life with is probably not gona go with the one making out with three different guys in one evening.
    I don't know you and you may not be... well... a slut. But the way you behave in public is bound to attract guys who want a slut.
    I am a christian myself and I can tell you we think about sex/relationships/women etc. just as much as the next guy. It's just that most of us are looking for something serious. And you're not sending any signals out there that you might be interested in that.

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    • Thanks for the reply. But like I said, my christian friends don't know what i'm like at clubs, it's all on the down low. I feel like it's almost two separate lives in which I don't completely fit into either.
      Outside of the club setting i dress fashionably/like a lady. I don't dress slaggy at all outside of the night even then it's more that I have a good body so I show it off.

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      • AbnormallyAwesome

        If you try to fit in into both of these lifes it won't work. But it really isn't necessary either. Don't try to fit in. What is it YOU want? I don't believe you truly are either of the personas you portray. But If you want to attract the people who will love you for who you are then you'll have to start openly being yourself - In both of your lifes.

        I used to be similar and probably still am, although not as extreme. I'm a christian, I don't drink and generally try to be nice to everyone but I have a really dark sense of humor, I swear a lot and I can be a very cynical. Those "qualities" used to be separated in my church life and my everyday life. Now the more I become the same person in all aspects of my life, the more I offend. Yet I feel more self confident and at peace with myself.

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        • Thankyou.

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  • Thatguy777

    At least people like you. I'm 18, and no girl has ever given a fuck about me. I've never even kissed anyone. Just be happy you not a sad fuck up like me

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  • The fact that you are a christian does not concern me.

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  • Naughtyboy666

    You going to church to make yourself feel good and trying to convince yourself that "youre a good person"

    You claim to be christian however the fruit of your life says the oppersite! If you were truly reborn and filled with the holy spirit your fruit would be pleasing to God, which is definitely not the case here.

    You are luke warm, pick a side, be committed to God, or stop going to church completely. You are at war with your mind cause your spirit is wrestling with sin.

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    • Wow there's a lot of assumptions here...

      I don't go to church just to make myself feel good. I don't even think i'm a particularly good person I just try my best.
      I go out so much because it's fun, social (I have a lot of friends) and I like to dance.
      I pull because after a while refusing all offers becomes tiring.
      I feel at odds because I don't know anyone like me, but I can't just become someone different. I can't just loose interest in the things I find exciting, I can't suddenly become quiet and reserved and un-extreme. I am who I am, but there's no one like me. My sister has the same problem.

      You are wrong.

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  • Sog

    Ohhh my gawd girl wat you doin you crazy!!!

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    • Eh?

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