Is it normal i'm 25 and have never felt in love?

I'm 25 and I don't believe I've ever experienced true love. I've had a couple of times where I initially thought I was in love, but looking back I don't believe it was real now. The first couple of times were more like high school puppy love, and the most recent was just infatuation. I'm beginning to wonder if I am even capable of feeling true love, because everyone talks about it and I can't relate.

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  • Tingles18

    Maybe you're what's called aromantic?

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  • dappled

    Every human is different, but most humans try to compare themselves to each other and ask, "Why is this experience not the same for me as it is for others?"

    Because every human is different.

    We experience things in our own ways. It doesn't matter what person X feels (or says they feel). It doesn't matter that a Hollywood film averages out our experience in order to appeal to the greater majority and sell more tickets. It doesn't matter that Shakespeare (for all his virtues) was little better.

    Every human is different and life is singular, personal, and your own. Don't traduce it by trying to hold it up against someone else's. Often they're lying anyway, just to make you feel bad, like those people whose Facebook reality doesn't quite match their actuality.

    There's no list of experiences you have to have, and no recipe for how you have to have them. Every human is different. I've repeated the sentence a lot because it's important. You're you. You're different to me and all the other people who responded. That's a good thing, not a bad thing.

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  • Aethylfritha

    Hey im in my later 30 s and i havent really been in love. Maybe im just not able to or maybe i havent found the right person. Im married btw.

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  • clitoriajustice

    this is normal and i sometimes wonder this too. im not saying you'll never feel it but it's definitely normal

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  • ThatOneGuyYouNeverWantToMeet

    Same

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  • SkullsNRoses

    I’m 23 and in hindsight I was never in love with my exes, I cared for them but it was never as deep or intense as the romantic love that other people describe.

    There’s certainly a stigma of getting to a certain age and having never felt romantic love, one that isn’t deserved. The idea of marrying for romantic love didn’t appear in western society until the 1800s, prior to that people were paired up to pool resources. The idea that we are all “meant” to find romance is a modern one.

    In terms of worrying if you are unable to feel love remember that it comes in several forms; romantic love, familial love, and platonic love for our friends, this last one was considered by Plato himself to be the highest kind.

    Just because you haven’t felt love in it’s passionate romantic form doesn’t mean you haven’t felt it at all.

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    • Yes, I definitely feel familial and platonic love very strongly. I've just never felt romantic love on the same level.

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      • SkullsNRoses

        You are not alone, it’s not as omnipresent or essential as our society makes it out to be.

        Contrary to what romcoms and dating sites want us to believe the meaning of life isn’t “finding your soulmate”.

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        • SmokeEverything

          The modern way of doing things seems to be just doing the same things people always did but feeling like you're getting an extra by making the choice yourself. They want people to get married and have kids so they push the issue on people through media as a choice you're going to have to make one day.

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  • LloydAsher

    Pretty new to the dating game myself and I love my girlfriend. Still trying to figure out if its "real love" or if its infatuation. That being said I am planning on marrying her so yeah.

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