Is it normal i'm 25 and don't want a relationship?

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I'm 25 and haven't been in a relationship in 4 1/2 years. I haven't wanted one since then and haven't even gone on any dates (by choice). I have other things I'm focused on right now and a relationship is just not a priority for me right now and not something I want.

I am fine with this myself, but my friends alienate me for it and act like there must be something wrong with me or that I'm a loser for being single. They act like relationships are everything and that being single for as long as I have indicates there must be something wrong with me. I know I shouldn't care, but it's still hurtful and I hate how I'm always looked down on regardless of the things I've been successful at all because I don't have a boyfriend.

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Based on 17 votes (16 yes)
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  • Fussmann
    3 years ago | pl

    Your friends are idiots. People who need relationships to feel valuable are the ones with issues, imo.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Misery loves company.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    3 years ago

    The issue lies with your friends here, it sounds like they are basing a lot (or even all) of their self-worth off having boyfriends. They may even be threatened by someone who is able to be happy without a partner to validate them.

    Once all this quarantine bullahit is over I’d recommend expanding your social circle to include people who don’t hold this toxic mindset.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      YES!!!

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    That's really strange behaviour from your friends.
    It's not unusual to not want a relationship, some people are just content with being alone which is a good thing and means that when you do meet someone you'll be certain that you really want to be with that person and aren't just desperate for companionship.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Yes! It's also okay if some people are content to remain single. Unfortunately, a lot of people, especially young ones, and females, tend to peer pressure their friends into conformity.

      I've had instances where another woman has asked me if I was married, or had a boyfriend, and when I said I was single, they would say, "don't worry, you'll find someone". My first thought is that I don't recall ever saying anything about looking for someone, and I'm content to be single. I can't begin to tell you how presumptuous, stupid those people sound to me.

      One of the best parts of being alone is not having to compromise on anything.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    I personally think that you are normal, and healthy! I think it's really shitty when people, especially so called friends, make a big deal about dating, and relationships as if there's something wrong with people who are content to fly solo. If you're with the wrong person a relationship can be more of a pain in the ass, and a hindrance to success in life than anything else! A single person is a whole, complete person, and just fine the way God created that person.

    Single people do not have to be lonely, incomplete, sad sacks wandering about the Earth looking for someone to complete them! We are all complete regardless of whether, or not we are coupled, or solitary persons.

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  • karmasAbich
    3 years ago

    I can understand the complacency

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  • olderdude-xx
    3 years ago

    Someday you will meet the right person who will mentally engage you and then... you will find that you do want a relationship and it will develop naturally.

    Don't let anyone try to rush that...

    I wish you well and a bright and eventually a very loving future,

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Perhaps, but if OP is content to remain solitary that is fine too!

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    It is somewhat odd at your age, but nothing wrong with it.

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