Is it normal i'm 22 and dating a 41 year old with a kid

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i just turned 22 and my bf is 41 and he has a seven year old daughter from a previous relationship. we're seriously dating, and we have a 19 year age difference. i didnt know how old he was when i met him because he looks younger. when i tell my friends his age they gasp and ask me why im dating someone so old lol. but me and him really get along and that's why we're dating.

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Based on 59 votes (33 yes)
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  • Aliceee93
    8 years ago

    Well, you're old enough to decide. I've heard about bigger age gaps. If he makes you genuinely happy then what's the problem? It's your life :)

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  • IINtobeonthiswebsite
    8 years ago

    Not "normal", but, that doesn't mean it is wrong.

    First, he is a LUCKY dude to catch they eye of a young, attractive lady. I am sure he is happy.

    He is just a BF, that doesn't mean your getting married!

    Some girls prefer "older" men, they feel more "secure", and, as an older man, that makes me feel lucky!

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    • answerme
      8 years ago

      You don't even know what she looks like...

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  • jethro
    8 years ago

    When I was 18 I dated a girl that was 30 years old. She was a lot of fun. When people ask you how old he is just say "old enough to be legal" that should be all they need to know.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Honestly I remember when I was 20 having a crush on a guy in my psychology class freshman year of college and when I found out he was 25 with a kid I completely lost interest. I wouldn't have wanted to be burdened at such a young age with someone else's child. Yeah sure, everyone's different, and all that jazz, but if I had a son or daughter your age I wouldn't want him or her dating someone twice their age. I currently have a very emotionally and financially needy female friend in her early-mid thirties who dates men in their 50's and 60's, it sickens me.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      I don't understand why your friend's behavior sickens you? Saddens maybe if you think she's being exploited or badly treated, but sickens?

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        I dunno, I guess it just freaks me out. It seems gross to date old men that could be her dad. I don't understand her, and why she does that. She'll go out with anyone. We went out to karaoke and after a few drinks she'd give her phone number to anyone. Then a week later she's complaining that the karaoke dj (who was too old for her) keeps sending her weird texts.

        I think it probably disturbs me a lot, because when I was younger old dudes were always harassing me at work. I guess I have a certain degree of personal trauma and disgust around nasty old men.

        For the most part the best thing about being a middle-aged woman for me is that get more respect, and it seems like no one fucks with me when I go out now, thank God! I dunno why, if it's hormones or what, but I stand up for myself more now, it's like I don't care. When I was younger I felt more afraid, and guilty to stand up for myself like I was afraid of offend anyone or hurt their feelings.

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    • heckleBucker
      8 years ago

      I'm very sorry about your sick feelings. Think happy thoughts.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Thanks.
        *looks for ginger ale*

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  • met445
    8 years ago

    it's your decision.
    but he is old enough to be your father though

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    • daydreamer394
      8 years ago

      He's not her father...

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      • met445
        8 years ago

        did i say he was?

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    • januarycurse
      8 years ago

      nonsense. most 19 year olds are not mentally, psychologically, or financially prepared to have children. (maybe they are physically but that's not everything...)

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      • met445
        8 years ago

        who was talking mentally, psychologically or financially?
        i said he is old enough to be her father, which is something physical.

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    its normal, its all about the connection and love between you. If it works for you go for it.
    When I was 21 I was in relationship with a woman 36 with 2 kids.

    I've also had a relationship with 2 women 17 and 19 years younger (and no I don't pretend to sail a boat in the Caribbean)

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