Iin: i love the jealousy

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Is it normal that I LOVE it when my girlfriend gets jealous, if I hug another girl who's just a friend, or even if we're just conversating, she'll get this little evil eye thing going, its so cute.. but her jealousy isn't overbearing, sometimes when a random girl comes up to me && starts flirting, I'll respectfully decline because I NEVER like to make any girl feel stupid or embaressed for approaching... But as I'm doing so I'll look over at my girlfriend in the distance and see her with her one eyebrow raised and I find it adorable... It's crazy how I could be in the center of a giant crowd and she can still spot me with no problem... It's like she can lock onto a target lol... But is this normal?? I never purposely go and talk to other women just to get her jealous... But when it does happen naturally, I find it arousing that if another woman confronts me, she'll drop EVERYTHING that she's doing to make sure nobody tries to swoop in on what she feels is hers && her's only

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Yeah, sure it's cute as long as you don't deliberately try to make her jealous, and she doesn't get cray cray.

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    • Arcangel419
      9 years ago

      No I'd NEVER do it intentionally, I love the girl... And what I love is that she gets jealous, but she's mature enough to where she doesn't need to make a huge dramatic scene about it, she always keeps calm & cool tempered about it, its like she gets jealous but still keeps a certain level of self confidence... I think she knows I could never leave her for someone else so she's not worried lol

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  • Koda
    9 years ago

    Actually, I think the fact that you're amused by your girlfriend's jealousy is a very, very good sign. I've always suspected that the people who really freak out and overreact to perceived jealousy are the weak-minded people who actually don't trust themselves completely not to cheat.

    If you're that sure of yourself to be calm, cool, collected, and undisturbed or threatened by jealousy, it probably means that, not only are you not the cheating type, but that you're probably not the jealous over-protective type yourself, either.

    As for why I think it's normal to "enjoy" jealousy, it's pretty logical really. For one, it's always nice to have someone interested in you, even when you're dating and not taking the flirting seriously. It's fun, and it makes you feel even more wanted. It ensures you that you haven't "slipped" since "settling" with someone.

    And the other major reason to enjoy jealousy is that when your partner is jealous it means he/she cares enough to want to protect what you have together and that he/she sees you as a catch that's worth defending.

    On the other hand, I can see why some people wouldn't like the trust factor being called into question. But, that said, some people are just paranoid and jealous by nature. Even if you've given them no reason to be wary, they might still have this nagging feeling that their good thing might one day be the property of someone else.

    I admit, when I've dated someone jealous, not smotheringly so mind you, but jealous enough that I notice, I too felt rather exhilarated at the idea of being fought over XD It's definitely, as you said, "cute".

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  • Petrichor.
    9 years ago

    So you feel flattered in other words? Seems normal to me! And jealousy is - whether most people like it or not - a healthy part of the relationship so long as it's not weighing down the psycho scale.

    On a different topic; I never understood why people see jealousy as a bad trait in a partner. It's really not a bad thing so long as the person isn't all crazy about it. I would be a little worried if I was with someone and they didn't get a little jealous about me paying attention to other people. But at the same time I would want them to trust me, too. It's a delicate balance that I don't think I could describe well with words. So I'll end it at that/

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    • Koda
      9 years ago

      I agree with what you said about jealousy. People tend to think jealousy and envy are such evil traits to exhibit, but I think they're rather benign, even noble in some contexts. I'm not a jealous person myself, but some people are conditioned very early on to be envious of their peers and it follows that they'd grow to be jealous of love rivals as well.

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