Is it normal i lost all my self esteem all because of someone's butt?

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So my butt is a fairly normal butt. It's definitely not small or skinny but it's not that big.

I'm pretty serious with my boyfriend now and I wasn't before so I met his sister. The thing I noticed right away was her butt. Her butt is so perfect, that it made me feel bad. I didn't even notice her face at all nor did I care. I just know guys love butts, so next to her, I look like a scrawny butt girl when I'm just normal.

She's obese but tall (she's like 5'8 and 200 pounds/I'm 5'2 and 110 pounds)and I'm thin so that's probably why but she hides it well with nice flattering fashionable clothes. I'm just some thin normal butt girl next to her and it makes me upset.

I used to be someone and then I met butt girl.

This isn't even a joke. I just feel like faces/weight doesn't matter and guys only look at butts and our busts are the same so that doesn't help me there either. Her face is average and I guess it matches her body and is obviously a bit chunky and round with thick big low-set eyebrows that make her look angry, acne, etc but I feel guys really don't care about faces, they care about her butt and butt only.

is it normal I'm ashamed of my smaller butt next to her?/Do guys think butts are the most important feature?

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howaminotmyself

9 years ago

Contrary to what you might read on this site, men don't want to date people who look like their sister.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

Your butt is probably fine. I think more guys than you think prefer nice tight even small butts to sloppy fat girl butts.

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- RoseIsabella
  
  9 years ago
  
  Tight butts rock!
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    9 years ago
    
    Yes. Andrew looks big though.
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      9 years ago
      
      He's like 9 lbs of feline lovin'.
      
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  - robbieforgotpw
    
    9 years ago
    
    Have u ever fart walked?
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      9 years ago
      
      Yes, whenever I get the chance!
      
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      - robbieforgotpw
        
        9 years ago
        
        I prefer shartwalking actually. And I do enjoy sulfuring my shorts
        
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        RoseIsabella
        
        9 years ago
        
        Where is your favorite place to go shart walking?
        
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    - captblood44
      
      9 years ago
      
      what is fart walked? dusting?
      
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disthing

9 years ago

"guys really don't care about faces, they care about her butt and butt only."

Bullllllllllshit.

Guys care about faces. It's the thing you look at when you speak, it's the thing you kiss, it's the thing that tells you if someone is happy or sad, it's the thing that you remember and identify people by, it's the thing you think of first when you think of who you fancy/love.

You have a crappy understanding of the opposite sex if you think all men care about is a woman's posterior.

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DoctorAngelDust

9 years ago

It's come to my attention that curvy is in. I will never understand this generation. A woman with a fit appearance is so much more attractive to me than a woman who is obese. Nice clothes do wonders in terms of concealing bodily imperfections.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Sigh
  
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  - DoctorAngelDust
    
    9 years ago
    
    I'm being serious. It wasn't until I tapped into mainstream media that it came to my attention that there is such a large number of individuals out there pushing the agenda that women are fit and nicely built are anything less than the pinnacle of attractiveness.
    
    I don't want to throw in this example but when I was on the street crime circuit, women with your figure were so much more valuable in any aspect of dealing and had much more bargaining power than "curvy" women, no matter what the men SAID they liked. Small, tight and fit will always be the default for attractiveness.
    
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    - peaceandlovebro
      
      9 years ago
      
      I don't think curvy means a thing anymore to be honest. Curvy used to mean a little over average way back when but now people use it for women up to 300 pounds. It's ridiculous.
      
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      - DoctorAngelDust
        
        9 years ago
        
        The word itself implies the state of being sexually attractive. Most people desire to be sexually attractive and, instead of changing themselves, have turned made that word their own in hopes of changing how their body type is perceived.
        
        It is not a terrible coping mechanism but even if they do change public perception, fit women will always be commonly more attractive.
        
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        peaceandlovebro
        
        9 years ago
        
        I guess so but from what I've observed, there are a bunch of people lately just going for large women and by large, I mean the obviously large not just overweight.
        
        I personally don't think obese people look healthy and so , I can't perceive them as attractive either. However, sometimes I'll find a slightly overweight person attractive but then that's not a big deal as it isn't a hindrance to their health and they're usually fairly fit as well.
        
        I do think you're right about it helping them a bit in terms of coping. They probably do feel a bit better when people use curvy over obese to identify them by. I feel like psychologically, it's improving people but not health-wise.
        
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- disthing
  
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  Curvy =/= obese
  
  You can be curvy and perfectly fit and healthy. Lots of men like curves; the hour glass figure accentuates the traditional 'feminine' body shape; wide hip-to-waist ratio, reasonably sized boobs and ass.
  
  The idea that curvy is a polite way of saying they're more fat than person just doesn't ring true to me.
  
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  - DoctorAngelDust
    
    9 years ago
    
    That's what I thought it meant but obviously I was wrong, considering that curvy is being used to describe everything from a full figure to a husky one.
    
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    - disthing
      
      9 years ago
      
      Maybe it depends where you're from. If someone who was obese described themselves as 'curvy', I'd assume they were kidding (or in denial).
      
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      - captblood44
        
        9 years ago
        
        doctorangeldust is correct.
        
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  - captblood44
    
    9 years ago
    
    i have to disagree. apparently, in the real world, at some time, curvy started to mean big, not curvy as in well endowed with female parts. i am single and if someone wants to introduce me to someone curvy, that's a red light. its a rare occasion, that someone described as curvy does mean an hour glass figure.
    
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    - disthing
      
      9 years ago
      
      As I said, perhaps it depends on where you're from.
      
      This isn't my experience.
      
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captblood44

9 years ago

if you do/like the missionary position, the face is first thing you look at, then the other parts of the body.

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zoffix

9 years ago

First, I think face is more important, and I also like small butts.

Second, you'll never be happy if your self-esteem is tied to other people. There'll always be a girl with better butt, better hair, younger, and anything else. Try not to compare yourself to others, maybe?

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ThisIsImpossible

9 years ago

Ah naw bruh you got no ass?

Flat ass bitches ain't fo shit, them white bitches get no dick

Ain't got no ass in duh firs place, don't try to come to my birfday,

Imma first class nigga you a bone-ass trick
Imma first class nigga flat booty bitches ain't shiiiiieeeettt

Hahahahhahahaha

Why play a game you can never win?

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mountain-man82

9 years ago

I prefer faces and stomachs to anything else. And I like things to be proportionate, meaning not too big and not too small. Id definitely go for you over her based on your descriptions.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Sounds good
  
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kinas

9 years ago

I admit, the sexiest part of woman's body for me is the waist, hips and butt. So if a girl has nice curves, and knows how to move, of course i'm gonna look and wonder..
but that's just it, a butt. Don't worry. We guys get use to it after a while and we know that are 1 million more girls hotter

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EccentricWeird

9 years ago

Voted the stupidest post on IIN 2014!

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- peaceandlovebro
  
  9 years ago
  
  Nice little award.
  
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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

The description you gave of your boyfriends sister does not sound attractive to me. There's no reason to be jealous of her. I would much prefer a physically fit girl with normal proportions than obese body parts. The best looking girls often don't think they are attractive.

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- ilovetoiletrolls
  
  9 years ago
  
  Don't want no chubby faced big-eyebrow girl with acne? Come on now!
  
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- peaceandlovebro
  
  9 years ago
  
  Yeah, she is probably just finding faults where there are none.
  
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lolol555

9 years ago

I got big booty bitches, big, big booty bitches (HOOO)
big booty bitches, big, big booty bitches (HOOO)
big booty bitches, big, big booty bitches

little bitches get out, we don't want no skinny bitches
little bitches get out

(I'm kidding and tbh I don't even get where you got the idea all men love obese ass, I suppose some do, but most surely don't)

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KeddersPrincess

9 years ago

-_-

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RapidlyRotatingPanda

9 years ago

Big is by no means better on the ass front.
I don't know why girls think it is!
Personally I blame Sir Mix a Lot

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RoseIsabella

9 years ago

Don't compare yourself to this girl it's like apples and oranges.

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- disthing
  
  9 years ago
  
  Or bananas and watermelons.
  
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Is it normal i lost all my self esteem all because of someone's butt?