Is it normal i just met my father at 38 and expects me to care for his 19yr son

"Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but here's my loser son, so set him up with a life, maybe?"

But seriously, I agree with Mando. That just shows you what kind of family they are when your father, whom you just met, will saddle you with a huge responsibility like that without even asking for your opinion or taking your situation into consideration. That is a pretty drastic favor to ask someone that you just met, obviously this part of your family has trouble with making good on their responsibilities and behaving like rational human beings.

Once he is gone, make sure he stays gone. I know families like this and these kind of people will latch onto any responsible friend or family member that will allow them to. You don't want to have to spend the rest of your life playing host to leeches.

Yeah your dad is being a giant prick. Just because you've got some of his genetic material doesn't mean you're beholden to him, or his other children. He wasn't around to care for you when you were growing up, so he sacrificed his right to familial obligation.

Kick the lazy kid out (might be good for him). He's your dad's problem, not yours (although if he's 19 he should only be his own problem by now).

You've learned a lot about them and now it is time to put what you've learned into practice. Keep them out of your life and not speaking with them is one way.

Thanks all very much. He is gone now and I am staying away from them, I removed them from my fb and I think they got it. He is only 19 with 2 children of 5 yrs old and 7 months old and he is back with the psycho that throw him out. I never thought in my life we have to go thru something like this, it was like one of my sons said "a weird experience", thanks again. The nightmare is over.

You are in a very difficult situation right now. And as much as you should respect your father, he is wrong this time. You should have declined. If you should stop talking to them? I don't think silence solves any problems, but if it makes you feel that they deserve it, then yes it is normal.

Tell him the FUCK No.

They are abusing and that's not fair.

Don't ignore them. They are still part of your family. You don't have to jump hoops for them, just be kind and loving.

yeah fuck that, that's not your kid. Don't bother with them. They are doing this much, so soon; imagine what other fucked up shit they do.

I don't know if by voting I'm answering to the title or the question in the end. But I voted yes, it is okay to stop talking to them. They're not your responsibility. :)