Is it normal i hesitate in front of beautiful women and then have regrets later

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I walked into a Best Buy store today (12.5.2015) to buy some headphones, and I grabbed one that was white Sony. I checked on the shelf and it said 13.99. I brought it the counter and the cashier girl was very attractive, with medium length brunette hair, and her blue uniform looked very good on her. She was around 5 feet tall and looked slightly Latin. She looked young like she was in high school. So she scanned the item and asked me to pay 32 dollars. I knew something was wrong so I told her hold the white headphones and I would be right back. I returned with an almost identical pair of Sony headphones but this one was blue. She scanned it and said this one was 14 dollars.

She gave me a puzzled look for a second and said "that's so weird". She asked me to take her to the aisle where I found these headphones. So I took her there and showed her. The white headphones were indeed 14 dollars. She bent down and removed the old price sticker for whatever reason. Then she led me back to the counter. As I walked behind her I could see that despite her small frame she was quite curvy with a very impressive posterior in those black pants. She asked me whether I wanted the blue or white headphones, I asked her how much the white one was, and she said 14 dollars. So I decided to go with the white one as it was slightly better quality.

I paid her a 20 dollar bill and she handed me back my change. I said "thank you very much" and she said "have a good day". As I was walking out of the store, I thought about how I could have handled that interaction a little better.

I am autistic and never had a girlfriend. I really wanted to flirt with her because she was attractive and nice but I didn't know how, or even if it was appropriate in that environment (although there was no one around us and no customers in line behind me). Anyway I thought about how I could have at least tried to make her laugh. I just get really nervous in front of attractive girls and my heart starts racing and I can't think straight. I can't show my personality or sense of humor and I get stiff and robotic and awkward. Then later I always have regrets about how I could have done or said something differently.

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  • pumpedup
    8 years ago

    OMG!! That is 96% normal, man! Just because you are autistic, that doesn't mean you can't experience what most guys feel. I have felt that soooo many times in my life, to see a beautiful woman in a store or whatever, and i try to act nice, and maybe try to charm her, make her laugh, or whatever, but i don't do such a good job. I end up leaving, and i kick my own ass as soon as i get out of the store. Some guys have charisma, and some guys don't. I guess us guys who don't have natural charisma with the ladies need to learn some things, on how to get them eating out of the palm of our hands. It takes some practice, but fear not, you can get the girl. Maybe if you go back to the Best Buy, you can test out your new approach. Best of luck to you!

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  • somedude11
    8 years ago

    What the fuck is wrong with labeling everything autistic? Jeesh you cant hide behind some petty labels, this is totally normal, like 90% of people are shy and dont have balls until they have alcohol in their blood. I was too that but only thing to do is really just man up. Flirting and conversation is skill like others, its like cooking, playing games, football or whatnot you just have to learn it and you wont learn until you do it. So just back up and mainly have fun, if you have fun doing it it wont be awkward, if she is normal she will see find it cute, so points for you. What can you lose? Nothing, we all fail and in the end we will laugh about it. Only people who have issues will always bring out your fails to feel better about themselves, just tell them who doesnt do anything doesnt break anything, this ussually shuts them up. Just live dont care about others, opinions are just like shit, everyone has them, they stink and everyone has to get them out of it.

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  • MrsEdGein
    8 years ago

    I sort of have the same problem because of my extreme shyness I've avoided several chances at relationships because when on the rare occasion a guy shows interest in me and talks to me (like saying "Hello") I clam up and look for the nearest exit. I really hate that about myself. It sucks being me.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    That sounds totally normal. One thing though. Don't think you're autism is holding you back. It's all about confidence. Some girls like quirky guys, in fact my cousin who has autism just shacked up with a decent looking girl. If you can play your strengths then do it. It just takes practice. Start by making light conversation. If you notice something about her that you like, just tell her, she'll just think you're cute and take it as a compliment. Worst scenario is that you both move on and nothing happens, best and although more scary scenario, is that she compliments you back and maybe you get a conversation going, but you're on your way so you say maybe you should meet up later and you get the number.

    You're going to fuck up many times but the more practice you get and the more confident you are the easier it will be.

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