Is it normal i haven't acted like a woman despite being one?

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I grew up as normal as normal could be. I played with Barbies and Bratz dolls, I watched and adored Disney movies (Cinderella was one of my favorites because I loved blue), and I spent all my time with other girls 24/7. Despite all of that, I acted different from other girls.

-I was never influenced by "impossible female beauty standards" and "what a woman should be like" despite being surrounded by it. I figured that I would have taken some of it from my sister but apparently not.
Girls always talk about how Barbie ruined them and made them think that they had to be a certain way, but I never felt like that. At the worst I thought "my face isn't pretty" and it never went any further than that. I've always felt comfortable in my body too.
-I've never thought that women were disadvantaged at all (in modern day in my country), nor have I been exposed to women seriously harmed by sexism.
Every honors and AP class had more girls than boys. The girls usually did better than the guys. All the women I knew had jobs and were doing fine, with or without a man. There was never a moment when I had to question what a woman's role was because I was never introduced to those stereotypes.
Even after I was aware of them I didn't really care. I knew it wasn't for me but I wouldn't get annoyed if someone wanted a traditional life.
-I never found a problem with "sexualization"
Apparently feminists think there is something wrong with finding women sexy? Personally I like it when women are portrayed in such an attractive way, but that might just be because I'm not straight.
Either way, as long as their character is developed it shouldn't matter if they are scantily clad. It shouldn't matter that men have fetishes for "exotic women". Most of all, it shouldn't matter since no one is being harmed.

Considering all this, does this take away from the fact that I'm female? For my whole life I've been certain of who I am but apparently there is another side to it that supposedly every woman goes through.
It makes me feel like there is something wrong with me.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    Sounds like you're struggling with what society is telling you vs what you have experienced personally. The TLDR is to trust your gut.

    First you have to develop a good understanding of what femininity and masculinity is. Unfortunately, both have been re-defined, shamed and demonized by "modern feminists".

    Women do not = men because they are different. There is nothing inherently wrong with being a woman. This is what modern feminists don't understand. They shame women into living as flawed men: which is a path towards depression, drinking out of boxes of wine, and living with a bunch of cats.

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  • BleedingPain
    6 years ago

    Sometimes I question people who say that Barbie gave them false ideals growing up. Bitch come on, what kind of parents did you have where a barbie doll was your role model?! I played with barbie dolls growing up and not once did I think that because I was 6, I had no concept of body image or boobs to even consider that.

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  • Murun
    6 years ago

    "does this take away from the fact that I'm female?"
    I think it adds to the fact that you're female! I'm a heterosexual man who's never found the heels/make up/nails/Barbie type of woman attractive. I also like intelligent women (no coincidence there!) so someone who's never sold out to, or believed in any of the media's expectations is more woman to me than someone who's dressed in pink all their life.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I don't get the point you tried to make. What's so different about you?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      All these women talk about the "female experience" and whatever about how they are constantly harassed, pressured and oppressed but I never experienced that.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    You sound like a normal sensible person. I think that you should chill, and enjoy your life just the way you are.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    I think you're just being you, and so far it sounds like there's nothing wrong with that.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    So long as female is not synonymous with illogical, I'd say you're as female as female can be. Then again what are any of us but connected fractions of consciousness divided only by our ego's false interpretations of reality. Or some shit

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