Is it normal i have these feeling about a best friend while i have a boyfriend?

I've been dating this guy for about a month - were friends for about a year before that, and I know I love him. I have this best friend (another guy) who was my first true bestfriend when I moved to where I am now. So he's been my best friend for about 2 years now and has liked me the entire time. I never dated him because when I first met him I was under 18 and he's about 3-4 years older than me. Anyways when we could date timing was never right, he would have a girlfriend - I didn't expect him to not date, he can't wait 2 years, that's not fair. So I started dating this one guy who I had liked for a while, and we completely hit it off, and I love being with him. My other friend got jealous and we kind of stopped hanging out because he was upset about the situation. We just recently started hanging out again and all I can do is think about him.

I always told myself I didn't like him, that I was just lonely, but I know I do, I have a great time with him and we have a lot in common and I trust him with my life. But I know I like the guy I'm dating now, and I really don't want to end this relationship, but I don't want to miss out on a chance with my friend while I have it because if I've been repressing these feelings for 2 years, something has to be there.

So what do you think I should do? Sorry for the long post, thanks if you actually took the time to read it.

I should stay with my current boyfriend and see how things turn out 17
I should breakup with my boyfriend and try with my friend 9
I should just leave them both alone and stop hurting them 4
Other (comment please) 2
Too long, didn't read 11
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  • ObsessedWithReedus

    Well, first I have to say that I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation. Now, I voted other because my answer is a mixture of a few choices.

    -Talk to your best friend and see if he likes you in that way.
    -if he does, and you are sure you want to be with him, break up with your boyfriend
    -But, weigh your options carefully. Are you sure you like him more than your current boyfriend? Are you willing to give up your boyfriend to be with him? Is it a guaranteed thing that it will work out between you are your friend?

    Good luck :)

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