Is it normal i have lost my husband and he will not come back to me.....

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I have been married for 4 months now to the love of my life. He recently started bursting out and yelling at me for no reason. Shortly after this he left me and said he would never be with me again because he couldnt control his anger and didnt want to hurt me by yelling. I love him with all my heart and soul but I cant seem to get him to come back to me. He says he loves me with all his heart but its better that we stay apart and go through with the divorce. I do not want anything but to be with him. I do not know what to do or say to make him come back to me or even go about talking to him about how much more it is hurting me to be apart rather than for us to have fights and talk them out. I know marriage is hard but I am willing to go through anything to be with him. He already said he didnt want to go to counseling for it as well. I really need help on this because I feel he is getting more and more distant everyday we are apart. I took a vow when we married for better or for worse and I meant it. PLEASE HELP!!

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  • Hard_Candy
    13 years ago

    First of all you need to get professional counseling to help you through this. Why would you want to be a man who doesn't want to be with you? Why would you want to be with a man who is verbally abusive?

    You shouldn't be asking how to get him to come back to you, you should be asking yourself why is your self esteem so low that you feel you deserve this type of husband? Abuse only gets worse, it never gets better unless the abuser wants to change, which your husband has clearly told you he doesn't. His verbal abuse will surely escalate to physical abuse if it hasn't already, and it's great that he decided to move out. God is blessing you by ending this marriage at 4 months, you should take the blessing get a divorce and move on with your life. Work on your self esteem so that you'll make better choices in men in the future.

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  • kit-kat-bar
    11 years ago

    You are doing the right thing by trying but you cannot control someone else, YOu will meet someone else that will not yell and be able to handle his shit. I suggest you try because that what love is about, but don't expect that he is going to change his mind.

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  • Bootygopop
    12 years ago

    Hes most likely cheating. Sorry.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    i agree with randomjelly if hes not willing to try and fix the problems you may as well give it up and with time you can love again

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    If he doesn't want to seek help through counseling then he obviously doesn't find your marriage to be a priority. Hurts I know...but you deserve better.

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