Is it normal i have an annoying crush?

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How do I get over it and move on? I developed a crush on one of my friends. This made me feel horrible since I not suppose to have feelings but was suppose to simply be the perfect friend. So I drove myself crazy trying get over it and felt like a bad person. We got in a fight, and stopped talking for a period of time because of an issue totally unrelated to this.

Than they dated a few people, we got became friends again and recently randomly told me "Oh we broke up" when they had initially lied and said they wasn't dating anyone. I keep thinking there hope, but I dont think there ever will be and I cant get over it.

I also realized I no longer have any joy or happiness and this is the one person that makes me happy. I have lost hope in everything else on this planet. I know im a horrible person and I dont deserve anything in this world, I dont even deserve to be part of it. This is the only thing keeping me going right now though. I dont feel much of anything anymore

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  • michelle2451
    8 years ago

    My point is... Slowly but surely I moved on. I moved on from someone I wanted to be with for the rest of My life and I've grown. I've grown in a way that I love myself enough to be happy without being in a relationship and you can too. But, you have to allow it or else it will not happen. Stop clinging onto and mourning what you thought would happen. Get closure, cut the cord, and move on. You should NEVER be happy simply because someone else could love you. YOU need to love you first. yeah people say that a lot, I know. That's because its true. Love you enough to move on. Love you enough to enjoy your own company. Only then can you selflessly love, and be loved in return. Work out, focus on school or work. Or get into school if you're not in school. Go soul searching read a book or an online blog and obtain new knowledge. Love yourself. Its a long hard process but its so worth it; I'm living proof. One month ago I was so depressed that I didn't want to get out of bed but I forced myself.
    Now, I'm casually talking to a few people and loving it. I'm happier than I've ever been in my life. Good luck bud.

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  • michelle2451
    8 years ago

    Honestly you need to move on from this person. Sometimes we lose the people who we think will mean the world to us. That's just the way things are sometimes; experience with heartache helps us grow. Take it from me, and I know you don't believe it right now, but the truest form of fulfillment comes from loving yourself. You can not seek it through other people, because you are guaranteed heartache. The fact that you feel so crappy is proof. Moving on is hard, but its so worth it. Its funny, most of my life I was a total hopeless romantic. Anytime I fell for someone i really fell. HARD. This last one though, it hurt me the most. I felt like nobody had ever been so compatible with me in my life. Even more strange, we had been in the same town with a population of merely 2000 and lived less than four miles apart. Yet we didn't meet until they were 18 i was 21(almost 22). To me, it felt like fate. I felt this strong attraction towards this person that was literally pulling me in. We talked for months and our relationship only last 4-5 months but we loved each other so much...
    Problem was, well, we were constantly playing games with each other and being passive aggressive in these weird subtle ways. I would accuse and be really possesive.. On the outside, people thought we were a lovely couple. And there were lovely things about us, but we just came close to breaking up so much...

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  • thecunt
    8 years ago

    you'll be fine once you grow some pubes and your balls drop.

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  • Seimisty
    8 years ago

    I think it could have something in common what happend to you when you was younger.
    Happinnes is feel but when you got permanently stressed (maybe you cant even know about it but you looks like that) your mind is closed. Rarely can emotion come inside, outside.
    It's like emergency mode.

    For you it is normal, but emergency mode is not!

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