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Is it normal that my fiance does not care to give me what I like in bed. I will do anything that he wants and I'm very giving but he just lets me do whatever and then gives me nothing back???wtf
its my duty to pleasure my woman.. i cant get off unless she gets off.wtf is wrong with these lazy bastards!
If its like this, imagine when you're married. I heard it goes down hill. Get a guy that can't keep his hands off you and worships you. Run before it too late. Run them chicken legs!
News flash! You are about to marry him.... It's as good as it gets before they offically have you.
Give it some thought. Good luck!
You will end up resenting him. Resentment is toxic in a relationship. Be honest with him about it. He will either step up and do what makes you happy or he won't. If he won't, then you need to move on. Your sexual happiness is just as important as his.
Thanks! I just wanted to add, hes a weed smoker. Mostly daily, I sometimes think this has an effect on that..Also, we have kids together so its not that easy to just leave and I do love him. I have mentioned it and told him it makes me feel unwanted. Hes only said that hes tired a lot. He works like a 2nd shift.( but he stays up playin video games and who knows what else to 2 or 3 in the morn!!
It's probably because he's tired and not the weed. My husband (yes, unlike a lot of people giving you advice on marriage, I'm actually married) became a "lazy lover" during his medical school residency. He was pooped! Once his schedule returned to normal, things picked up again, but I did have to remind him of the change.
Well oddly enough I just had a talk with him about it. He says its because of my attitude?? I can honestly say I'm the type of person who does not like to be in a pissy mood. I love to be goofing around. The only reason this EXCUSE may fly is because he has been pissing me off lately and he knows it, but I still initiate sex and am not mad everyday. But he has been like this for a few years. This is like torture!!!
Have you tried to not have sex for a while? You can then tell him it's because you don't get satisfied and he doesn't even try to do things that you like. You said you do everything to please him so he should do an effort for you.
Maybe you can get yourself a toy and play with yourself and the only thing he'll be allowed to do is to watch. I think this could work.
He should stop the weed, that's for sure. He's got a family to take care of and I'm sure the money to buy weed could be used for better things for the family.
I just feel kinda sad that people are like this out there. I believe that people should do the best they can for their partner, whatever the situation. Anyways, I really hope he will change for you.
now ill admit im a lazy lover...my bby tosses me in all these positions nn give me hours of pleasure...i dont do too much...but uu kno sometimes he does get tired nn i do a lor something...get on top or even juss simple things like kiss him all over or massage his back...juss to show him tht i lve him nn will do nnything for him..ur husband needs to put up or shut up..meanin he dont get none if uu not
Lady it's not yet late, not yet tied the knot. Try me and I will be all over you, will make up for what he didnt do.
Times have really changed, men before would do anything to please their women and now, women are the ones who have to try and make men want them like they are suppose to be wanted in the first place. What has heppend!
If i were you, i would talk to him and really reaaaallly tell him how you feel and honestly if he does not 'bother' changing than why should you hang on? why should you be the one to compromise? i know you have children with him but would you want to be in a depressing marriage and god forbid if another guy gives you some attention you may slowly be drawn to it. Im not insinuating you will cheat, i do not know you, but we are human and lacking self-esteem (which is a big factor it one's feel good life)naturally we will seek eslewehere for it,not intentionally, unsciousouly! Talk to him!
i agree, my husband's the same way.
he is responsible, helps me around the house,
hes amazing.. but when it comes to doying the did he always has an excuse or something to do.
he says his pipi hurts, or he has to shower all over. bummer, it nakes no sence because once we do it, hes all proud and feels great...
hmmm :*
Have sex with other, better men in front of him so he knows what he's doing wrong
If he's not satisfying you then thats pathetic. Its all about give and take. I love to make a woman happy iit makes me happy.
I have the same problem,its so frustrating! I wish I could snap my f in gers n he would b good in bed!! men are selfish!
I can't work out why if you're so wealthy and he's able to afford weed every day, why he works a second shift. Would he not be better giving that up and spending the money on his children, and his time in bed with you?
I wouldn't marry a waster like that. Sorry!
Sorry babe but you need do something about this! So your saying he doesn't go down on you or suck on your breasts? This is a must in a relationship! Maybe you can have a side partner. Maybe a bi girlfriend or a male friend. I tell ya the girlfriend would make you very happy!! Haha
Have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe you need to tell/show him what you like, but whatever you say - don't be too harsh and critical!
My mom says there are two things you should never criticize about a man: the way he drives and the way he is in bed.
What works much better is complimenting and encouraging them. Maybe he's a little insecure, so show him and guide him. If he tries, he can only improve. However, if he's not prepared to make more effort, then that doesn't bode well for your relationship as a whole, as it could well be a sign of selfishness.
No excuse! Cut him off and make him work for it :) guys are like dogs u have to train them. They need to be good if they want the treat. Give a guy to much and he ll walk all over u. U have the magical punani girl take control!