Is it normal i have a girl crush but don't know what to do?

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Its the second time & I find my self adoring this new friend. I really like her but there's no way I can say " hey I think you're super cute" without her being weirded out. Plus she has a bf & idk how she would take a girl basically hinting that they have feelings for her. I take it she's very straight. I don't know if I'm attracted to certain girls in that way as in a kissing way but personally would secretly love to try it. I may loose her if I hinted on anything but I really like her, what do I do?

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  • Crow
    8 years ago

    She's taken. Leave it. If you're really curious, try going to a lesbian bar or something.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    You sound like me back when I was a baby lesbian :') so unsure. Well, I broke my heart on a straight girl, so please don't go after straight girls.

    The funny thing is, NOW she likes women and I have started to prefer men. Go figure.

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  • Joanna0428
    8 years ago

    just tell her how you feel i did that when i liked someone and he had a girl friend and i still went for it at first i thought i was the weirdest person on earth for him but then i talked to him and we were friends well kinda more than friends but don't hide your feelings no matter what.

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  • horny_simpletons
    8 years ago

    I can kind of understand how you feel...I recently started questioning my sexuality and came to terms with the fact that I am bicurious.

    However, it's a bad idea to pursue a 100% straight girl, who has a bf at that. I don't recommend telling her, especially if you don't want to lose her as a friend. If you're curious and want a gf, look for single gay/bi women.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I don't know if shes 100℅ straight. I hardly know her to be honest! I don't want a gf. I would have to be really attracted to a girl in the first place before even considering the idea of a relationship with that person plus I rarely come across a girl who fits that idea or that I crush on. I don't develop crushes easily and I couldn't make out with just any random either.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Leave her alone, she's taken and is totally straight. What on earth is there to gain from creeping her out by telling her all of this mess? If you're so impulsive that you simply must spill your guts to this poor girl then don't feel sad when she gets uncomfortable, and doesn't want to be your friend anymore. People aren't obligated to return your affections. Don't be a creep.

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    • NeofelisNebulosa
      8 years ago

      It's really hard when you first start discovering you are attracted to a friend (who happens to also be a girl). The OP isn't trying to be a creep, she is confused and unsure. I went through almost the same thing. I fell in love with one of my best friends and eventually she figured it out and confronted me. It's difficult for everyone involved. Fortunately, once you get your heart broken by a straight girl, it usually never happens again.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        8 years ago

        Thanks for understanding my point of view! Thanks for taking your time in writing your story and sorry it didn't turn out the way you hoped. I rarely find my self thinking like this, its really only happend two times in my life, where I find my self wondering what it would be like. I'm very shy and frigid in that area any how so I definitely wouldn't be quick to confess these things to her. She just has the most gorgeous smile out of anyone iv met actually. Sometimes she really looks at me and intensely smiles, it's so adorable.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        Yeah, you're probably better at explaining that to OP than me. I guess I figure it's better to not say anything than lose the friendship, because usually a friendship is never the same after someone confesses deeper feelings if they aren't mutual.

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        • NeofelisNebulosa
          8 years ago

          Actually, I ended up being best friends with that girl :P we were angry at each other for awhile after the confrontation, then we made up and became friends again

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          • RoseIsabella
            8 years ago

            That's good.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I don't know if she's 100% straight, I hardly know her that well! I'm not trying to be a creep either. It would take a lot of guts on my behalf & would only confess my feelings if she was to give me a clear indication that she feels the same. I can be impulsive but in a situation like this, I freeze within. She really smiles at me like intensely sometimes and its the most gorgeous smile iv ever seen. I know it doesn't mean in any way she "likes" me but I can't help but like her.

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