Is it normal i hate my $@?!*** birthday

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I absolutely hate my birthday. I secretly have known why for a long time and haven't told anyone... Every year my birthday gets breezed over. When I was younger the celebrations were more about the adults in my family than anything ( for instance one year I was sick and in the bathroom, no one noticed I wasn't even at the party until my uncle came to use the bathroom and found me passed out on the floor). I have struggled with a lot of personal issues and my birthday always makes it worse. I've never really had friends. Everyone else seems to have people who go out of their way to make the birthday boy/ girl feel special. My family never made it about me and when you don't have friends then no one does. I just wish that for one day just one time, it could be all about me and what makes me happy, but every year my birthday is like a reminder of the fact that I'm lonely and that I'm not worth celebrating... In fact it's so depressing it makes me suicidal... Is that normal?

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81% Normal
Based on 58 votes (47 yes)
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  • ∞Rascal∞
    10 years ago | pl

    If no one in your life is willing to make that day special, then I would suggest that you make that day special yourself. Go out - get wasted, treat yourself to a gift that you normally wouldn't buy yourself, slowly erasing the bad birthday memories that you had in the past.

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    • myboyfriendsbitch
      10 years ago

      Agreed. The people i know who care about their birthdays usually plan their own party and treat themselves special. No one cares about birthdays anymore. Now they're about loving yourself for one day out of the year, should you feel inclined to do so.

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  • disthing
    10 years ago

    It's one of those things... You can't expect your family to spoil you or celebrate with you after a certain age - especially if they never really did in the first place. It kind of falls to you to keep the tradition up. And unfortunately, if you have no friends, it will be a solo affair.

    Think about your birthday as a celebration not only of you having been born, but actually that you're still here. Think of it like a "fuck you" to everything that you came up against or struggled with, everything that is still there trying to keep you down. You've made it one more year. You've survived the depression and other issues you've been dealing with. You're stronger than many.

    So celebrate surviving and being here, and that you still have an opportunity to experience good things in life, despite the bad. Celebrate that by doing what Rascal suggested; don't rely on other people to make your birthday special, treat yourself. Do something fun.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    well you're easy to buy for :D happy birthday btw :D

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    • Singingsoftly09
      10 years ago

      Thank you :)

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    I'm sure someone thinks you are worth it.

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  • DADNSCAL
    10 years ago

    The birthday hate is just a symptom of other issues you have. You need to seek counseling, before your suicidal thoughts become overwhelming. Good luck.

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    • Singingsoftly09
      10 years ago

      Already in the care of a therapist for my issues. In fact this is part of my therapy, helping express my feelings...this particular issue lies with desperately wanting the people who claim to love me to make one effort to make me feel special celebrated and appreciated.

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  • mixwell
    10 years ago

    I've found that the older I get the more I enjoy people not making a big deal about my b day.

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  • Runswithscissors
    10 years ago

    Yup, I hate my birthday too.
    I've taken my birthdate off my facebook profile too, cause you just get standardized messages from "friends" each year.
    I never plan anything for my birthday and nobody else plans anything for me either. I have 1 or 2 good friends who sometimes suggest a lunch/dinner somewhere, but that's about it.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    I've never had a blowjob on my birthday, can you believe it!?

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    • ∞Rascal∞
      10 years ago | pl

      Yes I can

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Make some friends then, problem solved.

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  • ChaoticBunny
    10 years ago

    I know exactly how you feel. My family doesn't appreciate me either. They treat me like crap and take me for granted. I'm always having crappy birthdays, too. They don't seem to care and trash the house, always relying on me to clean up after them >:-( I don't even get a thank you or any sign of appreciation at all. Its like they think I'm a robot!

    ... Happy late birthday btw. I hope you have a nice one for a change. You deserve it :-)

    You always have us IIN sheeple to talk to if you ever feel alone.

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  • anonymous9250
    10 years ago

    I only stele rate by birth day with my mom and brothers and sisters and its always just a cake and a candle followed by my mom going to work 15min after

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  • anonymous9250
    10 years ago

    I personally don't tell people it's my birthday and try to keep it a secret but its hard when you have a twin that tell anyone

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  • pinkbug
    10 years ago

    Just remember THEY r the problem...not you. Dont worry u'll meet some people who appreciate u and treat u like a real friend!

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  • GuessWho
    10 years ago

    I hate my birthday for the opposite reason. I just wish I could be left alone and treated the same as any other day, because in reality, it is.
    I think it's pointless to celebrate the anniversary of one's birth because, ultimately, you're still only just one day older than the day before.
    Why should X years of age be any more special than X years +/- a few hours.

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  • Chesteroooo
    10 years ago

    You are not alone. I feel the same way. -_____-

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I just had my birthday on the 1st. I went to the bar and made my own party. You have to make things to do instead of wait for them. If I had no friends I would go out and look for some. Bars and music shows are where I have found a lot of mine. I don't see why I can't do what I want any day. I dress like its halloween randomly and light things on fire and have feasts whenever I want. Happy Birthday.

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  • IDiGAFi
    10 years ago

    Me too, but don't make such a big deal out of it.

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  • ScooterNyne
    10 years ago

    I hate my birthday as well but for the opposite reason actually. Kinda funny. I despise the attention I get from such a stupid event. I get a lot of positive attention, which I don't want at all, and when I try to spend the day alone it gets turned into negative attention from people who want to call me an ungrateful asshole and the whole week ends up ruined.

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  • FocoUS
    10 years ago

    I notice a lot of people voted normal but I think suicidal feeling are a bit of a problem.

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    • Saycheese
      10 years ago

      Agree! That isn't normal for a person to think that.

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  • Singingsoftly09
    10 years ago

    I do celebrate myself, but is it wrong to want other people to also? I always feel guilty and self indulgent.

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    • RoseIsabella
      10 years ago

      It's good to celebrate yourself. I don't think it's self indulgent to want other people to celebrate your birthday nor do I think you ought to feel guilty. However, we are all powerless over the thoughts, feelings and actions of others and there's no way to make them act the way we would like to have them to act.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Is there a lot of alcoholism in your family of origin?

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    • Singingsoftly09
      10 years ago

      On my mom's side yes but she was absent most of my life.

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  • thoughtfulopt29
    10 years ago

    Happy late birthday!

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    I don't give a shit about my birthday. Is that the same thing?

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