Is it normal i hate having my adult step daughter living with me!

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she lost her good job is going through bankruptcy and her husband dumped her six months ago and she supposedly can't find a good job anywhere or so she claims.SHE WAS WORKING PART TIME AT A SO CALLED job but it was seasonal and they canned her right before thanksgiving. Of course she gets no unemployment.She is a lazy slob and ruins everything. I am ready to strangle her. Everything she does bothers me . and her and my wife are pals now. I hate it I feel like she is taking my wife away from me. I don't think my stepdaughter is trying hard enough although she left me a list of stuff she's done to look for jobs.
I have been doing all kinds of things to make her miserable and impose rules on her like you would impose on a small child.I treat her as poorly as humanly possible but SHE STILL WON'T LEAVE.
I have thought of claiming elder abuse so the police will take this freeloading piece of shit slob off my hands but then my wife will be madder at me.

what is wrong with this generation that they can't get jobs !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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disthing

9 years ago

"what is wrong with this generation that they can't get jobs !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

I've got a job.

Anyway, unfortunately when you're in a relationship with someone, you take on their 'baggage' - including children from a previous relationship. You have to deal with that. If you can't, you need to discuss it with your wife and stepdaughter. If none of you can find a satisfactory resolution, then put up or get out.

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TareBear20

9 years ago

What is wrong with your generation that you can not even form a proper sentence? Oh, and I see you're still freeloading on the Internet and probably not tipping the pizza delivery guy, right? You are no better than anyone that is given the same freedom and luxuries, whether you are in the working class or not. You sound like an annoying, spoiled child who is dealing with sibling rivalry. Grow up.

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Ellenna

9 years ago

That's her daughter, how can you use the word "befriended" as if it's some new relationship with a stranger off the street?

You're jealous and childish and probably also threatened by being outnumbered by your wife and her daughter.

You make no mention of having actually discussed your feelings with your wife and/or her daughter, you only mention trying everything to get the daughter out of the house: isn't it your wife's home too?

I don't know whether she's leeching off the household or not, but based on the attitudes expressed in your post I don't trust your judgment on that issue at all.

Just as a matter of interest, do you have kids of your own and does your wife accept them as part of the deal for being involved with you?

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MangoTango

9 years ago

The true rant of your post stems from "her and my wife are pals now" and you feel so left out. That's why you're angry. The rest of your post, while probably true, is an irrelevant matter, except that she lives in your house. Unfortunately, she has befriended your significant other. You will have to be diplomatic here. If not, you will make yourself look like an ass. In turn, its possible that these two will pal up against you. So, don't do anything hasty! I feel for you because I bet you want to scream murder at the sight of this intruder on your domain. Hmmmm, is there any way you can greatly increase her odds of success so she will leave? If not, repressing this fuming anger is going to drive you mad.

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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

Why get a job when she can freeload off you and have a built in play mate?
Give her 30 days to get out. Of your wife gets mad, then tell her she can go too. It really isn't your job to support your adult children. A bit of tough love may be just the ticket, here.

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- charli.m
  
  9 years ago
  
  I'm not even American, yet I know how shit the job market over there is. Maybe you haven't noticed, but it's a totally different world out there from when you grew up, and you don't know the full story, just this guys rant (yes, it may be justified, but he may also be a crotchety old crab like you who doesn't understand things).
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    9 years ago
    
    I really think it's more about spoiled people who feel entitled. There is work out there; it just might not pay as much for as little effort as many would like.
    A hell of a lot of people (in the US at least) feel that many jobs are beneath them, or the illegals wouldn't have any work and they have to go back home.
    I've got two children in the US job market and they both manage to survive. One is a grad from a top flight art school, but there's little work in her field right now and the other's a fucking hs drop out. Neither is too proud to take work when available rather than beg from me.
    As for the post, like every other, the may be or could be is bullshit; I must respond to the info given.
    
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    - charli.m
      
      9 years ago
      
      Yes, im sure that's it.
      
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    - charli.m
      
      9 years ago
      
      Oh. Just a second thought...how old are your two kids, and how long have they held their jobs for?
      
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IMissMary

7 years ago

In the good old days women would just turn to hooking when they couldn't find work.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

Maybe you should swap partners with this person.
http://isitnormal.com/story/iin-for-my-husband-to-be-afraid-of-his-adult-daughter-from-his-ex-191530/

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