Is it normal i hate being pregnant?

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I'm 35 weeks pregnant with my second child and I HATE it! I love my first child but and hated being pregnant then but I don't remember hating it this much. I'm already trying to get labor moving though it isn't working and I know it's because my body isn't ready, but damn it I wish it was. I have a friend who just found out she is pregnant 3 weeks ago and she has already finished decorating her nursery. To top that off all I hear from her anymore is how she throws up everyday and she can't fit in any of her clothes and needs maternity clothes. Though a week before she found out she was bragging how she had lost an inch off her waist and needed smaller clothes. She's got more baby clothes than I do for crying out loud. Seriously the only reason I'm pregnant now is because the condom broke...damn rubbers. I think my husband tricked me personally. I hate being pregnant, hearing all the people ask me stupid questions like when am I due, what am I having, is it my first, what my symptoms have been. I hate it all, then once the baby is born I have to deal with everyone wanting to hold the baby or know how labor was and how long, if I had pain medication. Then some people even judge if I did have the medication or if I don't breast feed. Seriously if you want to know so much about pregnancy and birth, go get knocked up your damn self! Just because I'm having a baby doesn't mean I want you to know how the kid was made. Am I the only woman that feels this way when it comes to being pregnant?

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  • trav
    11 years ago

    I also hated pregnancy. I felt invaded, circa the film *alien*. And I absolutely loathe the way that as soon as the bump starts showing, people act as if you're no longer a private individual but some sort of receptacle for their personal remarks, questions and judgement - and I'm talking about strangers here; this behaviour is just so fucking rude. It's like *society* [for want of a better word] think they own you, just because you're pregnant. You have my every sympathy and yes, you're normal. My sisters all felt the same way about prying strangers too, during their pregnancies - except they were usually [tho not always] a little less narked by this than I was.

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    • heybuddyalicia
      11 years ago

      Thank you! At least someone understands that not everyone loves being pregnant.

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  • ebonysky
    11 years ago

    Why are you so angry? I understand you don't like the curiosity of people when you are pregnant, and I get you obviously do not like the pregnancy process. But no one told you to bring a child in the world that you already are making into a burden. If you don't want kids or pregnancy then tie your tubes. Get on better birth control. Shit make sure the rubbers you are using aren't defective. Stop being a bitch about people being happy that you are carrying a child. Accept it and move on! Be happy you can carry a child to full term other people who want children cant! And before you say anything snotty I'm pregnant with my second child, 32 weeks along and this pregnancy wasn't planned because we broke up a month before.

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    • trav
      11 years ago

      Wtf? you're the bitch! she can't help FEELING what she FEELS. anyone who tells someone that they are WRONG - or have NO RIGHT - to feel the way they do is just a toxic, narcisstic invalidator. get over yourself.

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    • heybuddyalicia
      11 years ago

      It's not about people being happy I'm pregnant. It's about them being nosey. Plus why would they be happy? They don't even know me, have never met me and will never see me again.

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    • cruncheroo
      11 years ago

      You got pregnant a month after the break up?

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  • heybuddyalicia
    11 years ago

    I love both of my children and would never give them up. The pregnancy part though yes I would. The reason I say my husband tricked me is because he wanted another kid and I didn't. I was happy with my one, mainly because my husband is in the military and as of right now works 16 hours a day 7 days a week then 2 days off. In 6 months hes being deployed for a year, that's why I was happy with my one. He's never raised a baby before as he is my sons stepfather. As for the people that stop me and ask about everything, if they say congrats fine. But most people need to learn when enough is enough and try not to get to personal in the questions.

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    • shade_ilmaendu
      11 years ago

      Well I understand at least... even if he didn't necessarily trick you, he could very well have been hoping for something like this to happen, knowing that once you were pregnant it would almost be a guarantee you'd keep it.. :x

      Surely your frustration with him is why you're feeling so negatively about the pregnancy, the association is so thick I can taste it. And I know my friend who had a baby recently got really annoyed with how much people will nag you when you get pregnant.. "eat this, don't eat that, are you really drinking coffee??" and the like, as though being pregnant gives everyone around you a liscence to give you medical advise :P

      But I think it's really important that you talk to your husband about how you feel, that's not something I'd wanna let sit that could come up later down the road and cause a fight.

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  • amandapanda4210
    11 years ago

    no yur not the only one...im pregnant with my first child and i always wanted a kid "BEFORE" but now i see how tough it is to just be pregnant ...i throw up all the time im always hungry but i cnt stomach down any food im dizzy or light headed wen i get up im always itchy which the doctor says is normal but i HATE it i also always get those same questions! How many weeks? What is it? Are you excited? all that stuff...and im getting tierd of being prego honestly sumtime i get excited like yesturday i heard my babies heart beat but other than that reality hits again that i need to puke once more and well yeah its just hard

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    • heybuddyalicia
      11 years ago

      Yea there's good times in this pregnancy like when the baby kicks, as long as it isn't my ribs or bladder. But I itch every night, its like I've become allergic to my bed or something.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I seriously doubt that someone put a gun to your head and forced you to get and stay pregnant. Everyone is more than tired of hearing people bellow about their pregnancy. Especially when theres an abundance of kids already here who need homes, but people are selfish and want to validate a relationship/life choices with a baby. So just suck it up as it's completely voluntary.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    I thought you were supposed to hate pregnancy. I haven't obviously been preggo myself, but I thought it was a miserable process!

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  • *~ThePurplePixie~*
    11 years ago

    Hello there!

    You sound very angry!

    I know how you feel, my twin boys came as surprises, and I was only 18. Their conceiving was the only time we didn't use a condom, it too was only when my period went by later that month that I actually took a test. As it happened it turned blue, and I was married 15 days before my two lovelies came along!

    The people who coo and fuss over you and your little bundle of joy probably aren't doing it to spite you; rather from interest and care for you both.
    Don't take it personally - maybe they do it to every preggie woman
    they see!

    Your friend seems as though she's experiencing a different pregnancy to yours; she might be more prepared, more stoical amd have more of the classic symptoms - but that doesn't mean you can't celebrate your pregnancy, too!
    I never had any morning sickness at all when I was pregnant, no baby clothes for the twins' arrival, and I was holed up with backache half of the time! Don't let it get to you, girl!

    As for your little one being an accident...
    Sometimes in life we just have to grit our teeth and enjoy the ride. My two were unplanned, but now I don't refer to them as accidents - I like to say that they're surprises! Who knows, maybe your baby will enrich your life. I know I'd be devastated if anything happened to mine.

    Pregnancy is a wonderful thing. It's the tool which forges life from a tiny atom, a journey with twists and turns more magical than you could ever have imagined!

    Good luck, and feel free to contact me (or reply) with any questions you may have!

    Rock on, the pregnancy ladies!

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    • heybuddyalicia
      11 years ago

      It's not that I'm angry, I'm irritated. If I could skip the pregnancy part and just have my kids, I'd do it.

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      • *~ThePurplePixie~*
        11 years ago

        I understand that, but pregnancy is a beautiful thing!
        Even strangers like to celebrate it - your expectance.

        My brother in-law's fiancee is pregnant, and I almost feel rude to give advice - but I think pregnancy is amazing!

        Enjoy it, girl!

        xx

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        • IrishPotato
          11 years ago

          I still don't see how people see pregnancy as a miracle of life. It's pain and misery, so the pregnancy itself isn't that fantastic. Plus it's far from a miracle, it's reproduction.

          The result, however. IS wonderful ^^

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          • *~ThePurplePixie~*
            11 years ago

            When I say miracle, I use the term loosely.
            Nurturing new life from nothing is beautiful.

            I loved my pregnancy - but everyone's different, and that's okay too!

            xx

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            • IrishPotato
              11 years ago

              Couldn't agree more :o Although I have no clue how it is to be pregnant. Seeing as I have a penis.

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    uhm duh ? your not suppose to like it . Just bare it .

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    • bigtoy
      11 years ago

      Bare what?

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      • Allistalla
        11 years ago

        Im too lazy to even reply sorry .

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    "I think my husband tricked me personally". He wore a condom, condoms sometimes break, which is why "you" should of used some form of birth control that are more effective than the condom. He isn't to blame for you not making sure "you" don't get pregnant, you are supposed to do that, not him.

    If you didn't want to be pregnant, you could of had an abortion or actually used the oh so many birth control ways available to women.

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