Is it normal i hate being a woman?!!!!!!

i hate being a woman. I feel women are treated as inferior to men because they can have children. I often feel like nothing but a sex object. I think some women don't even realise that no matter what they achieve men will look at them in a sexual way and compare them and rate them against other women. No matter how far a women goes in her career she will not be as respected for as much as men are, it is almost resented. I feel like it is humiliating to see pictures of women's nearly naked bodies in sexual photographs in advertising and media. It is a constant reminder of how women will never be valued for their qualities values and intelligence the way men are. Its so frustrating. Does anyone else feel this?

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  • modernism

    "I feel women are treated as inferior to men because they can have children."

    I don't think that's the reason at all, actually. But personally, I think you should get over it. Whining over something you can't change is redundant. Many men understand that women aren't a living fleshlight and acknowledge intelligence. More so than not.

    But to those who don't respect you just because you're a female, flip them off and prove them wrong.

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    • So are you saying i have to accept bad treatment by men and if i speak up its 'whining'?!

      Yes I understand i need a positive outlook to get on with my life. However its frustrating when i do my best and i come up against sexism. If I feel this way I have the right to say it.

      Its not so simple as proving them wrong, I have even heard sexually derogatory comments about even some off the strongest and influential female public figures in politics and business.

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      • NeofelisNebulosa

        She isn't saying speaking up is "whining." If you hear an asshole making sexist comments, speak up! Tell him to fuck off. And some men won't change no matter what, so dont waste too much time worrying about what they think.

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        • ok point taken. And your right that some men will always be that way.

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      • TheCockRoach

        Nobody forces OP to have babies she can do what ever she pleases but sadly like most women playing the victim like a weak individual. Women will ALWAYS act like women and sponge off the government via taxation if not directly a man himself or both.

        The only way a woman will ever truly amount to a man is getting pumped up with testosterone. No ifs ands or buts.

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        • Tarkio

          Haha. Then they wouldn;t be a woman, they would be a she-male who is still influenced by female hormones no matter how many male hormones they use to cover their femaleness.

          Strong does not equal male. Weak does not equal female. Usually it is the opposite.

          People who have been denied over and over are usually much stronger than someone who has had an easy life.

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          • TheCockRoach

            Men have larger brains then women. Computers, internal combustion engine, compressor, 2 stroke, 4 stroke, rotary engine, diesel, gun power the list goes on and WE as MEN invented it all.

            OK now lemme guess Kevlar... Alright then WE as MEN invented 99.9% of everything and the woman .01

            The OP feels like shit being a woman because deep down she knows she inferior to that of a man which is very rare and admirable.

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    • Tarkio

      I disagree. Men respect "intelligent " women on "male" terms. They do not think women are equally intelligent or capable, they think they are intelligent or capable "as a woman".

      The Poll creator is not "whining because she can't change something". This is a big problem in our culture, and instead of just allowing it to happen, YOU could take a stand, and not put up with it.

      Flipping them off wouldn't do it.

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  • Freedom_

    The world is changing and I believe males and females will be completely equal someday if we remain patient and persistent (but not extreme). Hopefully feminism doesn't get carried away, resulting in men being treated unequally.

    I personally haven't had much trouble with being a woman. I'm happy to have been born a woman in this time. There are a couple things that bother me but they haven't really affected me too much. Hell things have gotten much better for us in just the past 20 years.

    Never heard of the ability to bear children being viewed as an inferior trait. It seems to be the opposite to me actually. When I was prego I had one professor who somewhat exalted me for it and said almost everyday something like, "if it were up to men to have babies, I wouldn't be able to do it".

    Perhaps you've had more negative experiences than me though?

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    • I wouldn't feel comfortable with a male professor making comments about my pregnancy at all. I think that was very inappropriate actually. He should have been focusing on your work. Personally i find comments like that from men (especially from a manager or lecturer) are condescending, undermining and creepy. I have had men say to me there is no point working so hard to get into medicine or law because you are a woman and will inevitably have children and your career will come second.

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      • Freedom_

        Also, it sounds like your brain is trying to form a stereotype based on these particular offensive comments you've received. Try to be aware of that.

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      • Freedom_

        I didn't think it was inappropriate. He focused on my work plenty. Now, a professor asking his pregnant student to model nude for him is inappropriate, even if he is a figure drawing prof. Those guys that made comments like that to sound target jerkish, but I think you're reading too much into comments such as the one I initially posted. Of course, it depends on the guys' attitude/tone/implications.

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        • Tarkio

          Compliments and praise are usually given by someone who wants you to like them. Your professor wasn't being sincere. He wanted to sound enlightened so you would give him an ego boost.

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          • Freedom_

            Wow, I had no idea, thanks... I thought some people were just comfortable with admitting some of their individual weaknesses....

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    • Tarkio

      Give it time. You will feel the oppression at some point.

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      • Freedom_

        Is your name a reference to the band Tarkio?

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    I don't think there is any need to be ashamed of being a woman.

    A lot of men who do look down on women do so due to the stereotype that women are overly-emotional, selfish while making themselves out as selfless (I'd do anything for you, I can't believe you would rather work on your car than spend time with ME tonight!), prissy ("go fuck yourself" or "I don't want to get dirty" as a response to a guy asking for help on a difficult project) and the subsequent contradiction of "girl power"!, ungrateful and entitled etc.

    Trust me, men get it pretty fuckin bad too in the "this is what a real man should be" department and my best response is that if men and women believe those stereotypes, then that's all they'll see. These stereotypes made it difficult at first for me to be taken seriously in a man's profession but I kept working hard and now I'm one of the bosses so if you're already accepting a certain fate because you're a woman then you've already fucked up.

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    • You made me break my, "Don't use the thumbs features" rule. Fuck you. Have a thumbs up.

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      • KeddersPrincess

        *Gasp* ItDuz, you used (dun, dun, duuuuuuun!) ...the thumb.

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        • *Plays end of the world music*

          I've unleashed my true power now. >:)

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    • Tarkio

      The poll creator is not ashamed of being a woman. She is tired of being treated second best, no matter how hard she tries. Men have no idea how hard it is to be considered the lesser gender. Women have to live up to "this is what women should be" too, but on steroids compared to what is expected of men.

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  • bucho's_butt

    I think you're wrong and you're a little right. The media does attempt to influence the public in the way you're describing. Sex sells. On the other hand I think it's only a partial success. I don't think most people actually view women like that in real life. Yes I view women in a sexual manner because I am a guy, but I don't actually treat them like objects. They're people just like me. I can't help being sexually attracted to them though, that's just biology.

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    • Are you trying to say...That sexual attraction and sexual objectification are two seperate things? And that you can think of a woman as sexually appealing and still consider her a human being with agency!? WHAT MADNESS IS THIS!?

      But in all seriousness; you hit the nail on its head. :)

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    • I think it has a HUGE influence on how people view women in real life. And viewing women in a sexual manner because you are a guy is no excuse. I find it annoying and distracting when i go to study in the library and I am distracted by men hitting on me because they are 'guys'. And if i dress down im considered boring and unattractive and if i dress up im asking for it! Either way men are rude and judgemental, its crazy.

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      • bucho's_butt

        Oh my god poor baby. You have lots of guys hitting on you? What a hard life you must have what with all the guys that are attracted to you. This is one of those fuckhead comments where your actually bragging but presenting it as a complaint. Get a clue and pull your head out of your ass.

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        • Tarkio

          Its not a compliment to have men "hitting on you" in certain environments. When someone is working they do not want to be hit on. Women are forced to dress like women in the media or they are not attractive at all. Everyone wants to be attractive! Even men!

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          • bucho's_butt

            That's a load of bullshit. I've seen plenty of women who don't dress with their tits hanging out and I still find them attractive. A women doesn't have to dress like a complete whore to be attractive to men. If you and the OP feel that is the case, then it must be because you have really unattractive personalities.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa

    Prepare to be attacked by Crusades and ItDuz ^_^

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    • lol

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    • Criticized* ;)

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      • NeofelisNebulosa

        Lol ;P

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  • januarycurse

    it's because of the male dominated media, for example if females controlled the media then there would be a lot more scantily clad men in advertisements and other places. girls and women are definitely objectified and sexualized more than their male counterparts, but that's just a reality and people should accept that the genders are not identical. it's the same when it comes to different ethnic groups, we should try to appreciate diversity instead of saying that males and females are exactly the same in every way. yes men will generally continue to judge girls and women based on looks at some subconscious level, but nobody really escapes how other people form perceptions of them partly on looks. it's more of a defense mechanism more than anything else, and attractive people are mentally associated with kindness, pleasantness, and often intelligence. of course there is a social stigma (e.g., males are more often referred to by their profession, like "he's a plumber", but females are more often referred to by physical characteristics, like "she's a blonde".) that being said, women who are successful in their careers have earned respect and at a certain point, achievements become more prominent compared to superficial appearances. similar to how lots of guys tell women to "get back in the kitchen" - it's meant as a joke and not literally. sure it's sexist but most of the time it isn't meant to be malicious, simply as light hearted fun and humor. I think when people don't take things so seriously, they're more likely to accept it as something that doesn't bother them as much. the measure of someone's character is how much they choose to be affected by things that don't matter, and how much they choose to focus their energy on real things and issues that do matter.

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    • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

      whos the highest paid person on tv these days?

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      • Possibly Kim Kardashian?

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        • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

          yallre miles off

          its judge fuckin judy

          900 grand an episode

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  • *Sigh*

    Somehow women can have more govenment spending for their health issues and safety, can't be forced in to war legally, can't be mutilated at birth legally, have more parental choices legally, the majority in education yet still have systems like affirmitive action, and so many other things yet are still the victims of this so called misogynistic society.

    The grass isn't greener on the other side, dearie.

    Buuuuuuuuuut, I'm almost entirely sure this is a troll post. I don't know why but it just reads like one.

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    • Tarkio

      You make little sense. You must be a guy.

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      • Tots obvs.

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    • Redcoats

      I am almost certain this is a troll post trying to get a rise out of us.

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      • Yeah, I was thinking the same. I forgot to add it in my comment. :( It just reads like a troll post. Lol.

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      • no..not a troll post, i'm a 23 year old woman and yes, I actually feel this way sometimes!!

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  • CDmale4fem

    I will say this to the men- If you are one that feels its ok to smak, slap, punch, push, kick, poke, belittle, humiliate, verbally degrade, or emotionally beat down the woman you claim that "you love" her and yet you treat her like dog shit on the bottom of your boots, you WILL change your ways after its your time to become another person victimized by a sexual predator. Yes I do love women. I feel that men usually treat them the way they do because of how they were raised. Someday after you men have been sexually assaulted, abused, victimized, however you want to lay it out on the table I promise you will have so much respect for women that it wouldnt be an issue in society. So men , go on out become a victim and then look deep deep down inside your self. Z how it felt for someone to be controlling your every move, be it by blackmail, or just coercion, or a beating from a belt,, If you want respect then try and show respect first, thats not a bad thing.
    (I have more respect for women and things like when they say "no" and mean it).

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  • Neuria

    Get off the internet and make me a sandwich.

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  • Quintarius

    I would love to sympathize with you, but i have been rejected by too many girls to give a fuck about womens plight in life.

    so all i can say is, suck my dick bitch

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    • that is no excuse. They had the right to reject you.

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      • Quintarius

        Your whining about your feminine plight gives me a huge erection.

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  • DarkLord1776

    Yes, sometimes women are under minded and put down. But unless you're planning on doing something about it, keep it to yourself.

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    • If I feel that way I have every right to say it

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    • Tarkio

      Why?

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  • KeddersPrincess

    Get a sex change.

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    • That is NOT an option!!

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