Is it normal i hate all family related stuff?

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Not specifically my own family, but I hate the whole notion and any of the BS that goes with it. When people say family is the most important thing I cringe. Little kids I don't like unless they're falling hurting themselves. Or those stupid subaru commercials where its like "well now that I have a family I need a safe car" as if birthing stupid children and playing dumb baby games with them should be the ultimate goal and success of life.

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  • wigz
    7 years ago

    I understand because I strongly dislike most of my family (the one I was born into), HOWEVER...growing up, growing older and making your own family is different. I married someone I loved and we had kids and I try my hardest to not make the same mistakes my parents did. My husband's family is so different from mine and for the longest time I HATED them because of it, even though my family sucked...I resisted them because I was so used to the shitty ways of my family that I was actually brainwashed. I was so used to being treated like shit that I found decent treatment wierd and wrong. I don't really know where I am going with this except to say I get what you're saying and I felt a similar way but that changed and it's really so much better. It's also nice to find people you want to share your life with...it's comforting. You never know what may happen and you will definitely need help from time to time. Building a strong family is great, IMHO.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I had a pretty shitty family too, but I dont feel this way because I necessarily resent people who grew up in a better living situation, its just like the overkill in terms of the only relationships that matter are family ones. or somehow you have the closest people to you should be related to you no matter how shitty they are you have to love them. Basically the kind of family structure built by friendless people who had a kid and now their social circle doesn't exist outside of home.

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      • wigz
        7 years ago

        It's not resentment, it's actually thinking you deserve to be treated like crap and when someone finally treats you decently or overlooks your minor flaws but still loves you, at first you resist...it seems so stupid! You can even still think it's a bit stupid and just accept it and it's nice to have people who have your back.

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  • Jayemen
    7 years ago

    I can understand this. Good friend of mine always said she never wanted kids, didn't like them, and, when customers with noise-making kids would go into the bar/restaurant she worked at part time, would say "What..Is..That? That should not be in here". Very anti-kid and family.

    She met a guy who has 4 kids, mostly young ones. Now? Everything she says is "my daughter", "I have a 5 year old", and "family time is the best". One night, she was bartending and really going at the family stuff, and said to one of the other girls "I know I talk about them a lot", to the unspoken agreement of a lot of people. Even I'd like to see her tone down the kid and family crap a bit, and get back to the real her..Professional, funny, and conversational on things other than the guy's kids.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Thats the most annoying part, even people without kids do it in relationships. Like they completely forego their own personality and interests to like meld with some other person and lose their own identity. Gets worse when they have kids. I feel like to have a successful relationship with somebody you gotta give each other space and remain independent people, its the least healthy for kids in that situation. How is a kid going to develop any kind of independent personality when all they are allowed to be is a small part of a family "unit?"

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  • felixy
    7 years ago

    Cringe is a sure tell for self-shame. Whatever the problem is, it isn't about families. It's about you, so look inward to find the source of your discomfort.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Nah, You seem to know a lot about self-shame. If the most valuable thing you do is hang out with people you're forced to meet, you need to live life more. family lovers suck!!!

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  • AntonioTheBlack
    7 years ago

    even christmas?

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