Is it normal i got drunk and accidently cheated on my husband?

you didnt accidently fuck him , you decided it would be fun and thats why you did it. It might have been the drugs or booze who gives a shit it was your call to make no one else's. only one thing you can do now , be his skank. fact is you were a skank when you went to the party , before you had the sex.

I agree, you had to have wanted it, or you wouldn't have gone through with it. I've been on both ends, doing the drunk sex thing, and can confirm..Not once was it not something I or the woman wanted. Office party boozing is a nice, easy excuse for what you yourself wanted anyway.

A) Confess your sins to your husband TONIGHT!
B) use your cell phone to record the conversation between you and your coworker. Explain to him once more that what happened was a mistake and that you regret it. THEN, get him to say something to fact that he will blackmail you/tell your husband, etc....if you do not have sex with him. (don't let him know you are recording)
C) go to your HR and file a sexual harassment complaint. use the video as evidence.

As bad as it was what you did, what he's doing is 100x worse and you don't deserve any of this. He's basically trying to rape you now. Even if it isn't considered legally rape, having sex with someone that you know doesn't want to have sex with you is the most sickening pathetic thing imaginable. I'm not sure about the legality of it but I'm pretty sure blackmailing someone into having sex is committing some kind of rape, so you could threaten to report him to the police or to take him to court. Or don't even threaten him, just go ahead and do it.

Although it would be shitty thing to do and potentially ruin 2 families, you could threaten to tell his wife.

I wouldn't do that, because it harms people that had no part in this fiasco.

Here is what I would do. Sit him down tonight, explain to him it was a mistake, you both have spouses, and this needs to stop.

If/When he pushes for more, say you don't want to have to tell his wife, but how about 3 or 5 more times, and then we take this secret to our graves, fair enough?

Do not agree to 100, 50, or even 20. Make it something you can get done in the next 2 weeks max, and move on. If he pushes you for more, then threaten to tell his wife.

Fuck the guy because he has a gun held to your head? hell no girl. Get some pride in yourself. 'Fess up to your husband that you whored around on him than send him over to beat on him.

Try and get it in writing, like a text or something, then bust his ass for extortion.

You must of wanted to have sex with your co-worker, and probably for some time. To me, it sounds like the alcohol, just gave you the courage to do what you wanted to do.

Now, you have found yourself in a mess, and either you continue the affair and hope you don't get caught, or call your co-workers bluff and hope he doesn't really tell your husband.

fuck him one more time , call the police and get a rape kit done. He will insist its consensual sex but your husband wont find it funny and will kill him for you. then both guys are out of your life and you can fuck everybody again like you used too.

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Tell your husband if you consider yourself an honest and loyal person.

Just come clean and say it was a mistake. He’ll probably be much less mad over that then if he finds out himself that you keep doing it and have never told him. If he doesn’t forgive you after you’ genuinely sorry, then don’t feel bad, that’s his fault. P.S, If you think he might be the type to get violent though, have a trusted friend in on it and secretly there to defend you when you tell him.

Fall on one's sword, confess to your husband & hope he forgives you.

Take away the power your co-worker has over you & tell your other workmates what happened as well.

My husband didn't believe my story, now what do I do? I followed your advice and told him, and now everything is fucked up. Thanks.

Ok, so my coworker says I should just lie and say I never cheated on him, but I was drunk when I said it, and I meant to say I was thinking of cheating, but never really did.

That way, my coworker is in the clear, and hopefully I will be too.

I told my husband I cheated on him, and he called me all kinds of names, n-word fucker, and the such. He was super pissed!
He now won't even talk to me about it, so not sure what to do now!!!

My co-worker wants to meet tonight after work to figure out damage control and make sure his wife doesn't find out.

You're obviously in an abusive relationship. I would avoid your coworker or placate him somehow until you can end things with your husband.

Going back to the start, you've said that you "accidentally" had sex with your co-worker. I guess you were staggering around drunk, lost your panties somewhere, tripped, and just happened to fall on his dick?

You've also stated that your husband would "beat on you" if he found out about the incident. So you're apparently in an abusive relationship.

Numerous people have pointed out that you're being coerced and this is wrong. But you seem to want to focus on the fact that you consented the first time, this was wrong, and you only want to know how to stop the asshole you had sex with (the asshole who isn't also your husband) from carrying out his threat.

Now you mention getting pregnant, so it seems you're not on birth control, and I guess you're relying on asshole number two using a condom properly.

Maybe it's time for you to drop a mention of child support payments into a conversation when he's around and refer to some guy you know whose life was ruined by the State hounding him for child support. Maybe you could say how women in your family get pregnant at the drop of a hat, and you'd really like a kid.

The bottom line in all this is that you are now being coerced into having sex with dickhead #2. Whether he's holding a knife to your throat or holding over your head the threat of telling your husband something that would result in him beating you up, he's forcing you to have sex which you don't want. There's a name for that.

While I'm just about willing to believe this is a genuine dilemma, your refusal to seriously consider actions you might take to stop asshat #2 and your focus on how many more times you'll have to be raped makes me wonder if this isn't a twisted fantasy.

I ended up having sex with him again after work last night to keep him quiet until I get a plan.

He says we can discuss a set number of times after work tonight. I just want to get this done and over with before he gets me pregnant.

What should I try and get him to concede to tonight?

You're underestimating yourself and your power. Your husband is married to you and loves you, to him any guy that you have sex with is an enemy. He is going to believe and trust you and not give a damn what some random guy at your office thinks. My advice is to be honest and come clean to him, but embellish the situation a bit to make it sound like you were totally innocent and got taken advantage of. If he truly respects you then he will hate this other guy's guts and be there to comfort you.

Put it in writing, then let him have anal sex with you. And if he doesn't fuck you good and cum in your ass, you'll call his bluff.

You are done diddly roasted toast! The only thing possible is to come clean to your husband. Nomatter how long you hide it, IT WILL RESURFACE and sting twice had hard when he finds out through third party or someone other than you.

My co-worker says I need to have sex with him after work tonight or else... I feel like I have no choice... Any advice?